by Leo Volont » Mon May 23, 2016 1:12 pm
Wow!
Richard is good at this. Yes, INHIBITIONS... such that People will WANT to get into Fights with EVERYBODY... except Big People and Cops.
BUT, there is hope for you..
Your INHABITION for Anger in the House could be just the sheer dread of knowing how Troubled and Anxious it makes you feel. Right? that is why you are writing in. Being Angry makes you feel terrible.
An Anger Episode, even with a Cat, will trouble one's Mind for hours. Who Needs That!? Well, I have 4 cats and sometimes they are quite naughty. so I have learned as a first reaction to everything -- JUST DON'T SAY IT! The Kitties aren't stupid and already know what you think from your initial Gasp. and so do your Parents.
So, in practical terms, you need to Condition yourself to ALWAYS PAUSE before speaking... if only for just 2 Seconds. You Need to Avoid "First Impulse" Responses. Then you need to learn how to use Time Consuming Filler Words and Introductions... the English are very good at this.... read more 19th Century English Literature to get the hang of it. The More Time you spend in effectively saying Nothing, the better your odds are that by the time you get to actual Content, you will have calmed down a bit.
Of course, NEVER SWEAR. Swearing simply Opens the Gates to Hell... in your Mind of course... all the Evil Bats come Flying Out as soon as you start to use fowl language.
Decide upon a Role Model. Some Actor in Some Movie who is always calm and collected and NEVER makes any silly stupid 'scenes'. I know.... You are James Bond!... Double OO Seven! He was never Angry a Moment in his Life! Just a clever little comeback for everything, even when the consequences were Life or Death or the Fate of the Free World. Not only will adhering to this Calm Persona Cool you Out, but that new self image might come with some extra little benefits....like you will be Surfing on a virtual Tidal Wave pretty new Girl Friends who find your sardonic nonchalance simply adorable.
anyway, good luck.
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