Can a person ever just be?

**Posts:** 3 · by **A Guy** » Mon Jan 03, 2022 2:14 am

Hi All,

I have a question that I can't answer on my own and wonder if anyone could give me another perspective on it, I've never also used a forum for advice before so if im in the wrong place tell me.

I've got it made so to speak, work wise, family wise, health, money, no addictions, hobbies, free time and balance etc. Well enough to know that the life I have is within reason as good as it could ever be, I'm contented and also have the facilities to expand on what I have should I wish, I'm very lucky and also appreciative of it.

However when I take a break from an active hobby or go from being with my family to relaxing on my own I have a "draw" back to a hobby that provides some progression. Example I'll sketch for a while and i enjoy it, during that time I focus solely on what I'm doing savouring the process and the end result, I'll watch a film and be engaged, water and care for some orange trees we have about the house or work on a classic car and in the moment I'm absorbed, enjoying the present.

But when I stop I always feel I should be doing something even if its just sitting and reading, well aware of the limited time we all have and so as not to "waste" any of it, partly so as to get the most out of what life has to offer but also because of a nag that says "move forward".

My question is then is this a biological trait of being human or a trait about myself I can't change or is there a way I can alter my perspective and look at time sitting doing absolutely nothing as something I can enjoy? So as to enjoy just being and not having to enjoy doing.

(I'm well aware that as far as "problems" go this is about as low on the list as it's going to get but any insight would be welcome).

**Posts:** 1554 · by **laureat** » Mon Jan 03, 2022 4:53 am

there are meditation gurus who teach about what you looking for, I just don't think that is the direction that you should be going,

stay motivated, and keep giving your best to the world

**Posts:** 3 · by **A Guy** » Mon Jan 03, 2022 5:30 pm

Thanks for the reply, does a form of meditation have any negative effects? I ask because I've never done it. Is there a downside to exploring this avenue of thought? If you've got any names I'd appreciate it as I have no idea where to start.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Mon Jan 03, 2022 6:06 pm

Whatever your personal opinion of the speaker, listen to what he is offering. I think it may apply to your post.

Start the video at 4 minutes, 20 seconds. He discusses the neuropsychological aspects of aim, goal attainment, and the natural human tendency to feel lost once a goal has been achieved.

https://youtu.be/sh90Y2--qlk

**Posts:** 3 · by **A Guy** » Mon Jan 03, 2022 8:43 pm

Thanks Richard, so i'm currently a force of good for those closest and their lives improve so maybe aiding those less fortunate would be a noble goal?

Thankfully the existential/midlife crisis came and went, but i could certainly do more for others outside my circle. I'll try it, thankyou.

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