clarebearzimba wrote:And that is your support this group purports to offer?
Are all newbies treated in this disgusting manner?
clarebearzimba wrote:Yes you Beloved.
The OP has been brutally honest about what he does, is posting on a support forum, and the only reply is from you saying 'Okay, I'm persuaded you are a bad person'.
How exactly is that support or helping OP with his issues?
clarebearzimba wrote:You changed your message from 'me?' to a longer one?
If you don't wish to support such a person, then kindly don't post antagonising responses.
I am not uppity, I am upset that such a response was posted by you when the very nature of this group is supposed to be support.
yammy wrote:I allow the small things to get to me. I then allow them to manifest into something they are not by not talking about it there & then with my partner. Instead I go quite & do not talk to anyone all day, not even the children. Whilst this is happening I make the whole family feel uncomfortable & afraid to do anything, even the children won’t talk as they know I’m in one of my moods. This will go on all day as I’m too stubborn to talk to my other half about what’s got under my skin. When I do talk it turns into an argument because of the anger that I have allowed to build up inside me. The small issue has grown into a large problem because of my silence even though nothing else has been said or done by my partner. When arguing with my partner I say the foulest of things to hurt her emotionally & say sarcastic comments in reply to rational comments that are being made by her because of my anger. The other night we were arguing & she was laying with a fag & I said “make sure you don’t fall asleep with that in your hand, set fire to the bed & kill yourself”. At the time I don’t even think of these atrocious things to say they just pop into my head & I say them no matter how hurtful they are. I have text woman behind my partners back. I have flirted with them & talked about personal stuff that relates to my partner. This has caused allot of pain & heartache for my partner as I lied about what I was doing & the contents of what was said. My partner try’s to walk away into another room for space & a 5 minuet breather but I just follow her to continue the fighting. When things have calmed down & we talk like adults should I don’t even remember half the bad stuff that I have said & don’t see the pain I have caused unto it’s too late.