Wajeeeh abbass wrote:Being humans its our responsibility to take care of people around us.She is not a bystander. She is my blood relative. She is like a sister to me.
That is what I am asking. What is your purpose? What is your perceived role in this person's life?
I agree with you. It is our responsibility to take care of the people around us. The question is how? How are we supposed to take care of those around us? How are we supposed to take care of a mom, a dad, a brother, a sister, a female cousin? What is our role?
Is it our role to be a therapist or marriage counselor? Maybe. Are they asking for your advice? In your posts, it doesn't sound like the 42-year-old is asking for your help. From your posts, it sounds like you are intruding, that you are inserting yourself into the life of this 42 year old and attempting to be a therapist or marriage counselor.
DO NOT do that.
And this is my advice to you. This is me taking on the responsibility of helping you as a fellow human. I'm giving you good advice in order to help you. If you go down the path of trying to diagnose your female cousin it will not work out well for you or the family.
You do not need to know if your female cousin is telling the truth or not. You do not need to play psychologist.
Your role is to help your female cousin by being there to help her celebrate holidays with the family, to give her a small amount of money if she asks for it, to help her find a new apartment or to move her things if she needs help, to help her apply for a job if she asks for help, to help her find a good repair shop for her computer if she asks for it, etc. etc.
Your job is not to be her therapist...unless she asks for that help, which it sounds like she has not asked you. Even then, your job would be to help her find a good therapist, not try to become her therapist.