Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:angerhaterguy wrote:i need your opinions on this matter. what to include or exclude?
Include, "this message is anonymous, because while I perceive that you have an issue of anger, I am the one that lacks the coping skills in life that are necessary to allow me to manage conflicts. This app allows me to continue to avoid developing these skills."
To Everybody, though it is Richard's Thoughts that got me thinking....
Oh! I thought the guy was being 'Metaphorical'... that he was just 'kidding' , that he wasn't SERIOUSLY thinking of creating a "FLAMING ARROW APP" but I guess that is what he IS planning to do.
Back in the 20th Century you would just Key Whip it on his Car or Sugar his Gas Tank. Maybe write a note and wrap it around a brick in it and toss it through his window. Of course we NEVER actually DID any of that stuff. We would talk about it.
But, really, Confronting Angry People is NOT the solution for Angry People. Most Angry People DO NOT seek help even after they know they have a problem. and many who do seek help don't put enough energy into it to actually benefit. and those who DO put enough energy into it, well, change takes a long time. So if you have a problem with an Angry Person, Professionally, Socially, or in a Relationship, probably the best move is to have the Angry Person fired, banished, cut -- deal with him or her the way you would deal with a bad quart of milk -- get rid of him or her.
But if it is a Boss then you have a real problem. If only it were as easy for an Employee to fire a Boss as for the Boss to fire the Employee, but its not. Its all still kind of like the Master Slave Dynamic. and it is likely that your Boss's Bosses do not see the Problem. Bosses are usually Two Faced. they show One Face to their own Superiors which is fawning and obsequious, but they reserve the angry vituperative Face for their underlings. So I can't think of any other way but by being anonymous that you can deal with the Problem of an Unmanageable Boss except with an Honest Letter of Resignation, and even that could screw up your chances of getting good Job References (New Bosses often call Old Bosses and Bosses can be as Thick as Thieves with each other). But if you go over your Boss's head, anonymously or not, the Upper Level's of Management will likely be irked that your Boss can't 'manage' to keep the peace and seems to be fomenting mutiny in his Department. the Problem with that is you might only scuttle your Boss's chance for Promotion, and so he will likely be your boss Forever. More people have been saved from Bad Bosses by 'Kicking them Upstairs" than by Firings.
Oh, and there is how These Things used to be handled. Nowadays we have comic books about Caped Crusaders and such. You know, that is simply a euphemistic glorification for how the Mob used to work. For instance, if some Tyrant on the Factory Floor was making the lives of all the workers miserable, the workers would put together a fund and go out and contract for Mob Enforcers (no more expensive than hiring a lawyer or paying Union Dues for the rest of your life) to come in and take aside the Boss and give him a stern warning and perhaps only throw him halfway down the stairs "the first time". Yes, instead of wearing Capes, the Mobsters where black suits and Sunglasses, but the Impression is unmistakably the same. You see, the Cops can only protect us in regards to the Law, but there is no Law against being an Angry Obnoxious Person. and so the People have to do what they have to do. Unfortunately in this Modern Day and Age, the Movie and TV Medias and Government Propaganda have more or less successfully demonized the Mob. People forget just how much good the Mob used to be able to do. (its been noted in America that the Nicest Urban Neighborhoods are the most "Mobbed Up"... that the Mob maintains 'Law and Order' and everything else, much better than the Official Municipal Police).
Anyway, avoid what Angry People you can, but if Financial Necessity puts you under their Power, well, I guess that puts the burden on you and you really just have to learn how to be submissive and take it. Here, you can try this Affirmation: "it is only a job", "it is only a job", "it is only a job"...