Hi Richard, Quietvoice, and Leo,
Thank you for your latest posts. As I mentioned to Leo in my last post to him, I created the thread with the hope of talking to like-minded people who want to deal with the anger issues they have with their wives. That proved to be unfruitful because noone is saying they too have anger issues with their wives. The debate went to the level of ideas and it became clear that noone has actually read anything apart from me. I think I have made point - that wife abuse emanates from misogynist beliefs - and you all reject that viewpoint for one reason or another. I believe it would be futile to continue arguing back and forth - much as I am tempted.
I think the interesting thing now is to look at how the communication went from an anger point of view. So let's start with you Richard. I believe your style is passive-aggression - anger expressed behind the mask of innocence and fake helpfulness. Why do I believe this? Because I have done this all myself and I can clearly see it in you.
I think the subtle aggression started with:
Given you created the thread I would guess you fall further to the politically correct side than most. I'm not saying that is a bad thing. It really just depends on how close you are to the rabbit hole. Don't fall in.
and later
I don't know if you have actually fallen down the rabbit hole. Have you?
Rather than dealing directly with the content of what I was writing, you belittle me in order to elevate yourself to a higher position. So behind a mask of reasonableness you are having a personal agenda to put me down and elevate yourself at my expense. (you are, oh so enlightened about political correctness, while I am a pure deluded idiot)
Here are a few more examples of your passive aggressive style of communication:
[What I found hilarious about the assumption is that in 3 years and over 5,000 posts you are the very first person to make such an assumption.
So I did/do find your assumption hilarious, because I have context which with 25 posts is not available to you. It doesn't make it any less amusing for me.
Here you fake being amused while you are really seething with anger. Obviously, I hit a sore point by saying that you are simply here to pick up clients. (I still believe that as you have not given any real reason why you are actually here. Your argument that you are interested in theory does not wash because theory can be found in books and not on forums. You also showed zero interest in the theory that I wanted to discuss.) So, if I am right, you are not only passive aggressive but also deceitful and have a hidden agenda. Do you really believe people will not notice this, Richard?
You don't understand math, that is okay.
More arrogance, passive-aggression and belittling . (I actually studied math at university.)
Most people in western cultures agree that things like stoning a woman to death for disobeying her husband is just a tad bit misogynistic.
Here you show a lack of empathy that is truly shocking and reveals your cold heart that is hiding behind your ‘”helpful” persona.
Yes. I believe that I am not a misogynist. If in your world, opening doors, buying flowers, giving over my coat on a cold day, giving up my seat on the train, buying dinner, etc. make me a misogynist then label me a misogynist. I'm good with that.
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Well, this quote I have simply thrown in to show that you do not listen (read) what the other person is saying. You live in your own world where you invent stories that nobody talked about in order to then fight your (not existing) opponent. You may also have said these irrelevant things in order to change the topic and confuse the thread – a typical strategy of passive aggressives. I have done that many times…
All in all I would like to say that if you are here to pick up clients then you shooting yourself in the foot, Richard. Do you think prospective clients will not notice the arrogance, passive aggression and cold-heartedness that seems to come through more and more as this thread develops?
If you carry on to talk to me in this style I will continue to point out to the thousands of viewers reading this thread your passive aggressive manipulation techniques. It ‘s not what came to do on this forum but analysing someone else’s passive aggression does also help to overcome my own.