so I've already posted a similar thread but sadly it didn't got enough response. so i am posting it again
so I am going to share something that happened when I was 12 or 13 or 14
so I discovered about pornography when I was around 11 I guess.
I only came to know what sex and masturbation was around a month or two before this incident. still I had a lot of question about it.
so there was my cousin girl who is 7 years younger than me. one day she came to my house wearing a frock and i noticed she was not wearing any kind of under garment. I was on a bed and she started to sit on me and do some drawing. when she did that I started to touch her private parts and then started to masturbate myself. There was no force or threat or coercion involved. i don't remember any penetration. she didn't even know that i did this to her. The next event occured next day. the next day I did the around the same thing.
actually i never even had the idea that it was wrong or a crime during that time. I was not at all matured back then.
but I had this thought of that my mom will scold me if she ever find out
thats all i never did anything again like that.
now i am 18. i was around a month ago came to know about the term Phedophiles and when i learned more about them, I suddenly came to this thought
i could accept that it was my age and harmones and I made stupid mistakes. but something is making me compare myself with a child molester or a rapist.
after this thought came to me i started to feel a lot of guilty. after some time i read a lot of online forum and find out that it is normal sexual exploration. and i was able to forget about the thought. after around 2 days i was searching for online and found out that every penetration is considered as sex. now i untill then i was pretty sure there was no penetration involved but suddenly i got this thought of around a 0.5 cms of my figer touched inside her private part. i really don't know if this thought is real or imaginary and suddenly this thought came to me saying that i am a rapist and a person who this society hates
I really have no idea why this penetration thought came to me and have no idea if this is real.
i feel I am the kind of person who don't deserve to live
I am struglling from this for 2 months. i never had any attractions to children . i have seen some psychologist before. all are saying to learn from the mistake and move on. but i don't how to do that when ever i even think about that it really makes me feel so bad that i have several times thought of commiting suicide. i know i was a kid then and should be not hard on myself. but i don't know what to do
actually i had a good life and i never been to a situation like this this is a first time. my both parents are aged and only i need to support them as their only child but i feel like i could not able to do that now . I feel like i made them failed as a parents and s
I started to think about this thought every time. all the time in my brain only i am thinking about this
i've asked in many online forums everyone is saying me to move on but really don't know how to do that .
another reason for my guilt is because i think i was 13 or 14 then i think i should've known better. but i was not mature back then.
i think i would be really better if i some one could tell me it was normal exploration because she dose'nt even remember it there was no force involved or i really don't know weather i touched inside her. the memory i having is touching with just my finger tip. but i don't know if it is true. that is my main concern
i am planning to move on and I am trying my best to do it. I hope any one of you guys could reply me.
i am sorry I don't want to trouble anyone. but i would highly appreciate if any one of you could tell me why this is not a crime and just curiosity. also why i won't be at jail
I am really trying to move on and everyone of your reply would help me as a step to my path.
Please some one tell me why this is just similar to any other person in this thread
thankyou so much for your support. hope i can get away from this. also i hope anyone who is in the similar situation could get helped by this thread in the future.
thankyou all. have a great day
also i think this will be my last post in this account and forum. thankyou everyone who takes their time to help others.