I'm a 21(f) now, when I was younger I made my brother who was 5 years younger than me touch me innapropriately, it was only touching my boobs but it happened more than once when I was 12, I grew up extremely sheltered and in an abusive, neglectful household, my parents weren't around enough to tell me what I was doing was wrong or why it was, I didn't know how wrong it was at the time and once I realized I immediately stopped. It only happened a few times but I still feel immense guilt over it, especially since I was raped a few years later. Even more now since my brother has developed a mind altering disorder than I can't do anything about. I know it was a multitude of factors that could have caused this since we've both had our fair share of trauma(witnessing assault, domestic abuse and violence, poor living conditions, bullying, isolation, etc) but I can't help but feel even more guilt over this. He says he remembered and forgives me and that we were just kids when it happened, we didn't know any better but the voices(alters?) in his head say otherwise, I desperately wish I could turn back time and know better, know what I was doing was wrong because I genuinely didn't know any better. I was supposed to protect him and I failed.
I've never felt sexual attraction for him, nor have I hurt anyone else, once I realized what I was doing I stopped entirely and never once in these past years have I stopped feeling guilty.
Lately, he's seeing a doctor and she's helping him work through his trauma, he tells me he's going to need to tell our parents and confront all of us on every mistake we've made, but I'm scared of how my family will see me after. I've only just fixed my relationship with my mom and I don't want to lose that, I don't want her to stop trusting me but I also just want my brother to get better. I'm terrified because I don't want her to see me as a pedophile or a sexual abuser because I don't think I was, I'm disgusted by what I did, I regret it horribly. I wish I could take it back so much I can't live with myself sometimes.
As scared as I am, it will come to light soon and.. just how do I confess to my mom what I did? Will she ever see me as her daughter again? Or will she disown me and want nothing to do with me ever again?
And again this isnt to seek pity I just, I want to know what I can do besides seeking counsel(which I am, COVID has just made it hard to get) to help, or deal with this situation. Whatever happens I just want my brother to get better but I'm scared of losing what little I have left, even if I may as well deserve it.