by Leo Volont » Wed Apr 27, 2016 1:10 pm
Dear RV
Actually, to have Anger Episodes “once or twice” and month, even the kind of episodes you describe, well that would be classified as, well, Chronic.
Think about it. You would not be able to hold down a job, if you became a ‘Problem’ once or twice a month. How about Relationships. Do you think anybody would want to live with you, if they had to deal with One or Two Anger Episodes every month.
I only had anger espisodes Once or Twice a YEAR and that was Way too much. People are Unforgiving. Once people see you angry, it scares them, and they remember you as a Threat, or some Crazy Annoyance. Even a little bit of Evident Anger… that people can see, can damage your Standing at Work and in your community. The Best Way to Live is to NEVER be caught by anybody Acting Crazy… and that is what People think of angry people.
Now, yes, in regards to what you mentioned about Anger Keying You Up and upsetting you for Days in a row, but it finally goes away. Yeah, that is what Anger does. The Anger Management Books call that “The Leaky Bucket”. The Bucket fills up with Anger, from Stress or whatever, and creates a big problem, but if no other stress arrives to replenish the Bucket, well, the Anger eventually leaks off, and we appear Normal for a while.
Some people are Anger on a kind of bio-cycle. If you circled the Day on the Calendar every time they blew up over something, and reviewed the Calendar after a year, you would find that you could reasonably predict when that guy would blow next, plus or minus a few days. If you were his boss you could tell him when to just stay home.
Anyway, yes, if you already have Counselling Scheduled, that that would be a Wonderful Idea. But unless you go in for Really Long Term Therapy… 10 weeks is not enough… it would be a good idea to study Anger Management on your own. There are plenty of good books about Anger Management. Look into them.
Good luck with Counselling. Let us know how it goes. Oh, its been decades since I did counselling. If you would be so kind, let me know what the Therapy is like.