Watching my life behind a sheet of glass

amyley wrote: ... there is something in my way.

Being trapped behind a sheet of glass is an image that makes the "something" external to you. It is the glass ceiling, believing others or external circumstances are in the way.

A more productive image is a mirror. You are the "something" that is getting in your way. This doesn't mean you in the entirety, rather you as in "something" about you that is getting in your way.

I know what it is...you are wasting a ton of time and energy focused on others and what they are doing with their lives. Instead of you focusing on being the best butcher, baker or candlestick maker, you are thinking about others and what they are doing.

How can you ever be the absolute best at something, at anything if you are focused on what others are achieving? You can't and the reason is simple. Because, someone out there, the other people are super focused on their field, they are spending 100% of their time and resources being the absolute best at what they do. They don't care what anyone else is doing and it shows in the end product, it show in what they can achieve. They will always be better than those that spend 50% of their time thinking about what others are accomplishing.

You are just now starting a business. I'm certain whatever business you are starting you can be successful to the degree you focus. There will be others offering similar services, products, etc. and the degree to which they are focused will determine their success as well. Some of them will be extremely focused, 100% focused. You need to also be highly focused if you want success.

Richard, I wanted to say "Thank you" for your post.

You are right. I I'm pretty much a victim of myself. I do spend too much time looking at others, their lives and not focussing on making a difference to mine.

Silly really....but my first step is to turn off Facebook. I am going to stop spending my spare time looking at others and what they have and what they do. I'm just going to keep my head down and peddle hard with my New Business.

And just to add to that a little, if you look objectively at your original post you're saying that you think/feel that everyone else is somehow better than you or better off than you. That just isn't possible.

I think it was Michael Angier who said that "When you appreciate what you have, you soon find yourself with more to appreciate."

If you can accept and be grateful for the fact that you're just as good as anyone else you'll go forward in leaps and bounds.

Yes you see to much in otther people life .Focus on what you have and you will receive more in life .if you focus on what you dont want you will attract more on this life .You must enjoy for good of others ,once you do that you will receive also

Hi Amyley -

I completely understand your struggle. What I think you might be missing, though, is knowing what makes you happy. Sure, there are lots of people who have more money, more success, more kids, but there are so many that are doing worse than you, as well - but are still very, very happy. And even the people who you perceive as happier, more successful, etc., are probably not as much as you'd think. Many people are constantly striving to outdo others or constantly achieve because they never know what "enough" is.

So here is a question, Amyley - what is "enough" for you? What does "enough" success, happiness, wealth, love, etc. look like for you? Is there a place where you can finally get to and say, "I'm okay with this, and it makes me feel complete"?

Your anger about others' success is common, but I'm sure you realize that it's not healthy longterm. So I invite you to ask yourself something: Alongside what "enough" looks like, do you know what "enough" feels like? The way to change your perspective is to go inside and think back to a time when you felt complete, happy, and "enough." Where in your body do you feel that? HOW does your body feel when you feel that way? What today do you do that helps to cultivate that feeling for you?

If you are worried about success and money, sure, there are lots of people who will have more than you. But when you are starting out, you will always feel behind. The trick you might be able to use, Amyley, is to look at others who are also starting their businesses. Don't compare yourself to someone who started the marathon months before you did. What may help is to change your inner thoughts from beating yourself up or for being angry at others, to "Sure, I'm not there now, but I will be." and define for yourself what "there" means (how much money is enough money, what does your business look like, what will your life look like, how will you feel on a daily basis), and watch yourself grow!

You have two roads and one decision to make: To decide to succeed and find the steps to make that vision you have happen, or to continue to tell yourself you aren't going to succeed or be enough. If you keep telling yourself the latter, you will become a self-fulfilling prophesy. So decide to thrive, Amyley.

I hope this helped. Much luck to you!

Lindsey Gemme
Positive Mentor