crudi wrote:So I have a constant urge to punch and hurt people .
Example : I talk with a person and while they are speaking I look them straight in the eyes and start imagining bad things I would do to them , it's like watching a movie and the urge to do the imagined things get stronger and stronger almost unresistable . But I manage somehow to to cool down I stand up excuse myself go to the toilet and punch the wall or the door . Then I splash my face with cold water and am okay again . This started about a year ago and it's really frequent now . What the fu*k is wrong with me ?
Dear Mr. Crudi,
Yes, having a Strong Urge to, really, go berserk in Public would be a Serious Problem, especially as you indicate, that it takes some relatively serious Coping Behaviors to shut it down – First, you have to leave wherever it is you are, abruptly… now think of HOW Other People See That. That would be a problem. And Then, Punching and kicking things is a sign that you are HYPED UP on your own Adrenaline.
Okay, you have a real Problem… I think that is ‘for sure’.
But We need to know somethings. Could you please tell us how old you are. Then I would like to know whether you have ALWAYS been able to Cope with your Anger so Effectively. Yes, there are problems with your Coping Behaviors, But, still, With All Those Urges, it seems like kind of a Miracle that you can Always Pull Back from the Edge … even if it is at the detriment of several Walls and Door that get Punched and Slammed.
Have you ever Lost Control? Have you ever Gotten Into Any Official Trouble for Angry Behavior?
But I understand the burdens of all the little threats, frustrations and petty hatreds that Angry Men nurse in their Minds, which Keys Up the Primitive Inner Man which is still so strong in so many of us. The Angry Man is energized for Fight or Flight… fighting gets one in the most trouble, but causing scenes with Dramatic Exits can also become a problem. So, yes, we need to deal with this as a Problem, and we need to treat It as a kind of a Personal Priority.
If you have a Good Health Plan, you could probably get about 10 Sessions from an Anger Management Psychologist for not much more than your Deductible. Or if you have money, you can foot the Bill yourself. If you don’t have that much extra money in your Budget, then, I recommend Reading All of the Good Self Help Anger Management Books. You can go online and pull up Anger Management Titles and read the Reviews, and buy only the best of them. But you have to discipline yourself into reading from them A Lot… so that when ANYTHING happens, you automatically have 3 or 4 Ideas about how NOT TO GET ANGRY….
But Progress in Anger Management doesn’t come Quick or Easy. It takes a while to Read all of the books, and then to re-read them… perhaps to delve more deeply into whatever recommended Practices seemed to have been helpful, in brief.
Waiting to hear from you….