Roger said:-
To get angry, you need to make a single interpretation such as "He did that because he is trying to humiliate me", "she did that on purpose and I'm going to show her I won't take it", or whatever.
Isn't that paranoia?
Seriously, though, I tend to agree that a lack of anger management can be a bad thing on the whole. During interaction with other people, it won't make you a lot of friends, and according to the article, it won't improve your health much either.
However, I believe that we all need to release at some point. It just needs to be a controlled release.
I am quite a placid person and find it incredibly easy to be understanding and calm during a work environment. I have a great empathy with people and can always achieve a good rapport. However, at home, I CAN blow up over the smallest things. Only at an irritable level understand, but it is noticable to me and my family.
Now, what form that release is can be another matter. It could be a martial arts class, squash, dancing in the night club or shooting at a computer game. But I do believe, that unless that energy is released in some form, it could be suppressed and cause some later complication.
I do happen to know a person who vents anger at the slightest thing and makes enemies wherever he goes. He thinks he is happy, while all the time, he thinks the world is against him. He expresses his frustration by cheating on his wife and then fails to understand when she makes his life miserable.
What he fails to realise is, that he is creating all these problems for himself.
Oh, if only he were a client (sigh)