Hopeless and anger

Napoleon was short. Sylvester Stallone, Tom Cruise, plenty of people are short. Being short does not stop a person from being a success unless they let it stop them.

what if my friends say,"you dont have right to do it!you are short"
i feel small before them,do they also think me small?

Einstein wrote:i am a short guy(5'0").my friends are very tall.i always feel that,even if i am a good student,they will do good in profession.i become hopeless and become angry and jealous at them.they also dont think i am a good friend.
pls help

Dear Mr. Einstein,

Yes, being only five feet tall, if you are an adult, is to be relatively short. But it seems that you are allowing your shortness to make you feel small. It is this feeling of smallness that makes you lash out at your acquaintances with jealousy and anger. Of course, under such circumstances as you present, they would not think of you as a good friend. Why should they? To them you are this touch angry and jealous person.

If you do not change the way you behave, while now in school, then this same pattern of behavior will follow you through life. Right now you pay to be in school, and so you have a place. But who would hire and retain a person with such a caustic bitter pattern of behavior, who drives all of his acquaintances away with expressions of jealousy and anger? You may be smart and proficient, but there are smart and proficient people looking for careers who aren’t morbid and bitter. With Employment Levels so low, Employers can pick and choose and take the very cream of the crop. But in this tough world if you have one problem already, well you might just as well assume that Chronic Unemployment will be another. And you have that one Problem, and I am not speaking of your relatively diminutive stature, as it is only just yourself who cares much about that. Your problem is one of attitude, not altitude. But you could fix it. I recommend you start soon.

You might want to start by reading a book: – “Cognitive and Dialectical Therapy Unleashed”, by James Ashley. It’s a good little affordable book that will tell about Cognitive Behavior Therapy – how to change your thinking in order to change your behavior. And both of those things are things in yourself that you need to change. Good luck.

It doesn't matter of your height. I can't understand how is related your height and that you are good / not good friend ...

vdystonia wrote:It doesn't matter of your height. I can't understand how is related your height and that you are good / not good friend ...

Dear Vdystonia,

I think his shortness is just an excuse he has found. I suppose that he may have been mean and nasty with the people of his acquaintance, and so they cut him from their circle, and in order to make seem like all their fault, he blames them for being prejudiced against his shortness. And, yes, we have all been pointing out to him that plenty of short people have plenty of friends, and that there is something more afoot here to account for why he has been socially ostracized. And then we have a certain hint about that from the tone he takes. the man needs to cultivate cordiality -- the art of being socially pleasing. Smile at people. Listen instead of talk. Agree whenever one can, and disagree politely if one must disagree at all. Stuff like that. Most of the time, if you don't somehow make people hate you, well, they will like you well enough to not go through the excessive trouble of ostracizing you. If you are not a big problem then people will not chase you away. This guy, for as little as he claims to be, made himself into a big problem.

If you persevere nothing can interfere you goals.

Stop worrying. It will not help you, strive to be a better person, a better you

TeeJee wrote:If you persevere nothing can interfere you goals.

Stop worrying. It will not help you, strive to be a better person, a better you

Well, TeeJee, studies have shown that Worrying does help. people who can put up with the inconvenience of worrying about everything all the time are more likely than Non-Worriers to foresee approaching difficulties and are thus in a position to avert trouble before it even arrives. Non-Worriers are caught napping and get into more serious troubles than Worriers. and then the Studies show that Worriers are better able to cope with Crisis Situations. Non Worriers are fine while everything is going well, but wen Everything Falls Apart, you want a Worrier to be in Charge.