Einstein wrote:i am a short guy(5'0").my friends are very tall.i always feel that,even if i am a good student,they will do good in profession.i become hopeless and become angry and jealous at them.they also dont think i am a good friend.
pls help
Dear Mr. Einstein,
Yes, being only five feet tall, if you are an adult, is to be relatively short. But it seems that you are allowing your shortness to make you feel small. It is this feeling of smallness that makes you lash out at your acquaintances with jealousy and anger. Of course, under such circumstances as you present, they would not think of you as a good friend. Why should they? To them you are this touch angry and jealous person.
If you do not change the way you behave, while now in school, then this same pattern of behavior will follow you through life. Right now you pay to be in school, and so you have a place. But who would hire and retain a person with such a caustic bitter pattern of behavior, who drives all of his acquaintances away with expressions of jealousy and anger? You may be smart and proficient, but there are smart and proficient people looking for careers who aren’t morbid and bitter. With Employment Levels so low, Employers can pick and choose and take the very cream of the crop. But in this tough world if you have one problem already, well you might just as well assume that Chronic Unemployment will be another. And you have that one Problem, and I am not speaking of your relatively diminutive stature, as it is only just yourself who cares much about that. Your problem is one of attitude, not altitude. But you could fix it. I recommend you start soon.
You might want to start by reading a book: – “Cognitive and Dialectical Therapy Unleashed”, by James Ashley. It’s a good little affordable book that will tell about Cognitive Behavior Therapy – how to change your thinking in order to change your behavior. And both of those things are things in yourself that you need to change. Good luck.