by Leo Volont » Fri Jul 20, 2018 9:11 am
Hi Everybody,
I wonder what his problem with women is. Richard brought out the fact that the guy is just a teenager, and so we can assume that there is an element of sexual frustration. But what accounts for his notion that women are 'evil' and do a great deal of harm, etc. Well, nobody nowadays is very optimistic about the economy and career prospects. Any teenager who is paying attention should be worried about there being very little in the way of assured 'way to go' career paths (most job opening in the near future will be for Robots). However, I have read of various studies which indicate that young women, more than young men, are being more pro-active. Many are going to college and taking advanced degrees, but I would suppose that even the none-college women are somehow scrambling to make their way in the World. Perhaps our frustrated and "angry" (again I have a problem with his 'anger' status in that he has not described an anger episode. He talks of being frustrated and very discontented... he even used the word "rage", but has he raised his voice or even pounded on a desk? Maybe this kid thinks 'anger' is just negative thinking or having a grievance or complaint)...and our angry young man sees all of this Future Orientation and concern for their own well being in women as "selfish". He wouldn't be the first young man to suppose that women should dote on men (I wonder if half of these young men don't realize that pornography is not real, but that it presents an unrealistic portrayal of male female social dynamics). Also, many young men resent it that more affluent young men, who have cars, their own place, a promising career, or whatever, get all the attention from the young women in their sphere. These young men somehow believe that women should only seek out men for their inherent personal qualities... all that silly "soul mate" stuff that we would intuitively believe only belongs in Romance Novels and New Age products that largely appeal to women, but which seems to underlie many of the social and sexual assumptions of young men (sentimentalizing their views of women). So, being passed over by the young women he knows for male rivals that they find to be better prospects, well, instead of being 'angry' with with the men, his rivals, that is, guys whom he is probably physically afraid off, he blames the young women for being "evil", when actually I suppose the gals are just looking out for themselves, which is actually the responsible thing to be doing. (why is it that guys don't prioritize women whom they would like to date in terms of their family resources, and education and career prospects, while being able to tolerate certain flaws in their social and personal presentation?). But let me pull up short and stop a minute and admit that I am not sure about any of this. We know very little because the young man is rather vague and inarticulate. That is another problem with young men. They do not communicate well. their language skills are so poor that they have trouble even knowing what it is they think (mental concepts are nascent and wordless and therefore undefined, even for themselves). Their emotions puzzle them and they do not have the words to express what they are feeling either. So, yes, while we can ask the young man questions. well, I suppose the young man wishes he could himself ask his brain some questions and get answers that he could understand. He is socially and intellectually lost, and as Richard pointed out, he is trying to find his way by 'clicking' his way through on the Web. When I was a young man, I was able to build up my mental frames of reference by just a lot of general reading. So when I went to school and people spoke to me, well, at least I knew what the words meant, and it wan't always the first time I ever heard of some concept or notion. But many of the young people today only have the Web, that is they are influenced by just the mob of uninformed ordinary common thinking. Back when I was growing up I was not influenced by anybody who couldn't get published. that raised up the bar a great deal higher than the Web has it, and I was much better off for it.