No, although I'd love to. You have a greater awareness of sensations in your body and you can distinguish and interpret them far better than I. I appreciate your trying to give me an example, but a fever is not like a hot flush; once it's passed there isn't a swinging in the opposite direction, so you can tell what the change was. It's up to "too hot", then back to normal. I'm sorry if I'm being dense here, but I still don't get it; I can't distinguish the difference.
Fevers are definitely different, and it’s actually the breaking of the fever that is the closer analogy to the feeling of a hot flush, but even that is likely different.
I wouldn’t call it a “being dense” thing, just “hadn’t noticed or paid attention to these things before” thing. If you’re still curious about it, you might find it interesting to pay attention and see if you can separate the two, conceptually. See if you can guess what the thermometer is going to say, separate from whether you feel “too hot”/”too cold”. See if you can locate those feelings in your memory of how you felt just *before* the hot flash came on, and if you can figure out what was going on.
Alright, I see what you mean. Yes, it’s the perception that changes rapidly, not spikes to legitimately unacceptable temps.
If you know that your body temperature actually doesn’t change much, then you can look back and forth between perspectives and start to see which one convinces the other. Would the “this is too hot” side, if presented to the “this is acceptable” side, bring upon the hot flash earlier? Or does remembering what it feels like to have that *exact same temperature* feel okay inspire a sense of doubt into the feeling of urgency that you need to cool off?
I was suggesting that maybe your temperature was climbing *slowly*, and that you just didn’t notice it until it was over the line. If this is the case, then maybe the solution is to notice sooner.
Are you saying, “set the intention to notice sooner” before I go to sleep?
Yeah, if it’s the case that you’re actually slowly getting too hot and then just not noticing until it becomes a “problem”.
If you’re happy you’re happy, and that’s great. I just want to make sure it’s clear that if you were to decide you wanted *less* hot flashes, this path continues further.
Just don’t go telling people that talking to me on the forum only got rid of *some* of your hot flashes, without mentioning that you chose to keep the rest :p
Anyone who knows you wouldn’t believe me and besides, What Do You Care What Other People Think?
It’s actually way easier to underestimate than you might think. Although Richard knows better and is being intentionally dense again (the silly goof

), without pointing it out explicitly as I’ve done it can be really easy to miss.
Doing things the way I’ve been trying to show you gets you everything you want, as you become sure you want it, up to the physiological limitations. While that sure sounds hard to beat, it still does not live up to our fantasies of “get rendered unconscious via hypnosis, wake up in 15 minutes to never have a hot flash again!”.
It’s not until you actually open up the black box and look inside that you start to notice “sh**, this is actually a complex system of regulation, and it’s not clear what the right set point is, how much to weight individual sources/types of evidence, or anything”. It’s not until you find the right questions to ask that you get to the point of having to face the convincing sense of “this *is* too hot, and I wouldn’t want to allow this!” and your unwillingness to push a magic button that’d allow you to ignore that level of overheating.
However, even having gone through it and decided “No, I don’t want that, all things considered”, it doesn’t necessarily get rid of the fantasy “But I still want it to be as simple as waking up to no hot flashes ever!”. And it’s not necessarily an impossible fantasy either, that’s not the point. Maybe that turns out to be the right answer, it’s what you want, and what you get. Maybe it’s even an easy decision.
But in the cases it is not, it’s still an *extra* step to go back and put the pieces together about what just happened and why they happened that way. Just because you go through the process of debugging your control systems doesn’t mean you’ve also watched yourself going through the process of debugging your control systems and realized why it’s necessary to the point where “I wish I could just close my eyes and have everything magically regulate to the exact right set point with no error signals” feels just like an amusing thing to ever wish for.
I was just joking around about the “don’t tell anyone [...]” part of course, but I do want to make sure you’ve stopped to notice that this *is* “everything you wanted, as you’ve realized that you wanted it”, and that it’s the optimal solution given what you know. It may not be as quick and convenient as “‘get hypnotized’, wake up to never having a hot flash again”, but when you think about it, you’re not sure that it’d be a good thing if it means just ignoring overheating signals. Maybe it would be, and maybe such a simple approach really would be better. As soon as you know that though, you can then use that knowledge to just directly accept the necessary suggestions and cut right to the chase.
I hear you that this needn’t be the end of the road, but somehow it just doesn’t seem very important anymore. I’ve come a long way and I’m very happy with that. Thanks for all the help.
Awesome

The way you just implement direct suggestion is pretty unusual, though. Just “intending to do stuff” doesn’t just make it happen for me. Maybe my intention is not firm enough?
Attempting to be “firm” is usually counterproductive, since it usually means “trying to shut out doubts” and it’s hard to NOT think of a pink elephant just because you try to be firm about it.
If there’s doubts, they often have to be addressed in some way or another. Sometimes they don’t though, and you can just do it anyway. For me, at the time, just saying “I am going to lucid dream tonight” in a matter of fact sort of way and then moving onto other things was enough for it to work. When it was intentional, I did have to distract myself away before I reflexively added “but just because I said that doesn’t mean it’ll work!”. When I didn’t even notice that I was self suggesting (because I thought I was just describing how I did it), I didn’t have to distract myself because there was no awareness that there was anything to reflexively negate in the first place.
speaking of wake induced lucid dreams, I’ve been wondering if they have any mechanism in common with “waking” trance, like I experienced in our previous thread? I had another such waking trance just a few days back and it was fascinating to experience it again. I was very focused, in a distinctly altered state of mind, was describing how it felt, from inside it, with a theory of how I had got there, even, and was told I was animated, lucid and making sense. I know I was in trance. Or are they two entirely different things? I’m wildly speculating. I can’t compare since I’ve never lucid-dreamt.
The relationship between hypnosis and dreaming is an interesting one, and I never really got around to experimenting with it the way I wanted to. For example, it would be really cool to try using hypnosis to walk someone into a Wake Induced Lucid Dream, and then try to see what differences show up both in comparison to “normal” hypnosis and to “normal” WILDs.
The one time I had one myself it was very different than any “waking trance” I’ve ever heard of. I was “in another world”, so to speak, and with absolutely zero connection to the reality around me.
I was laying in my bed trying to slip into a lucid dream, paying attention to the various hypnagogic hallucinations that were beginning to arise, when all of a sudden my entire visual field turned into a
“blue screen of death”, and there was this loud low frequency beating sound that was pretty overpowering. Next thing I knew, I was back in my bed, thinking “Dammit! I was so close!”. I examined my surroundings and stuff a bit just to make sure I wasn’t actually dreaming, but none of the signs of dreaming were there. Everything was 100% as vivid as normal waking life, and it wasn’t at all like normal dreams where you might *assume* you’re not dreaming only because you never stop to think. I decided to do a “reality check” just in case, so I went to check the time on my watch, but the backlight wasn’t working and it was dark, so I just gave up and went to sleep. And woke up realizing that I wasn’t actually wearing my watch, and that I had actually succeeded at jumping the gap from normal waking life to complete and utterly detached dream world without losing consciousness.
And to judge by what you said in the “freaked out” thread, you may not have experienced this kind of trance, or have you?
What kind, exactly? “Focused and lucid, but ‘altered’”?