unknowwn wrote:ive decided we should go to therapy together to work through our issues.
He can't be expected to treat me like an adult when I'm such a bad, pathetic person.
[quote[We both love eachother and we both have issues. [/quote]
I'm so pathetic and messed up, it would be remiss of him if he didn't punish me occasionally.
I dont think im ready to give up yet.
He hasn't put me in hospital yet.
If this fails, i can walk away knowing i gave it my all and i tried.
Then I'll find someone else strong enough to whip me into shape.
Who knows, maybe we can learn to live a healthier life together.
Richard knows and I know because we've both worked with lots of women who tell exactly your story. The dynamic is set in place: you sense his anger building up and you do or say something to provoke him, so it doesn't get too bad. He hits you or yells at you or cuts off one of your contacts to show you who's boss. You hang your head and say you're sorry you provoked him. The two of you have great make-up sex and you think everything's going to be okay. You rationalise his controlling behaviour; after all, you deliberately provoked him.
You won't believe what Richard says or what I say because you're determined to work the unworkable, not to be just another DV statistic who eventually had to cut and run. You're going to be the woman who tamed a wild man. Good for you.