by laureat » Fri Aug 05, 2016 9:20 pm
well sure there cannot be any positive emotion behind fighting
and more negative experiences you have worse you going to feel about, worse you will freeze
the idea is that with practice you learn your options, you become more confident of oneself that you are not going to end up feeling fooled, hurt, or regret that you hurt someone or whatsoever because you start to understand better what are you options and so even through a fight you keep it calm because you understand it is not as bad as it looks so you have more calmness more confidence because you know what your doing, and you know the possibilities where it may end to
do not confuse discussion with fighting
when I discuss sometimes with people they understand it as fighting, I be like I mean no fight but I have my own rights to share my believes, my opinion, I have my own right to disagree with you guys, and that is not exactly a fight I am just standing on my own space
if you go fighting I am unsure about that
but if you simply discussing that is a different story , there is a difference between fighting and discussing you can do it politely you don't need to be aggressive to prove the others they are wrong and you are correct, with relaxation you be like, OK here is my evidence, this is what it is, I am not fighting I am showing you the evidence because I love you, I respect you it is no fight, hate,
so the idea is that you change how you feel about a debate, about argumenting going on, because you believe it is something different it is not a fight, so you keep it calm
and so you have positive experiences even through an argument with someone, you keep it relax and you see that there is no need to feel anxious about it, nothing bad is about to happen you are simply discussing something
and through positive experiences you change how you feel about ,