Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Josh Smith wrote:I believe passive-aggression is where someone hurts or frustrates someone while pretending that they are innocent. The Wiki view states " The basic meaning...
Yep, that is a basic meaning. Other interpretations exist. One definition even goes so far to label procrastination as passive-aggressive behavior. I procrastinate sometimes, guess I'm passive-aggressive, lol.
You can go back through what I have already posted. I have already described what I mean by passive-aggressive.
Your intentions are obvious. You are not here to learn about anger. You are actually simply reinforcing the negative pattern with which you already struggle. Do you play these same semantic games with your wife that you are trying to play in here? Do you switch between playing victim and antagonist?
Once again, how is that working out for you?
Earlier you claimed it "bloody hurts" to talk with me, yet here you are just fine, unscathed. You are okay, right? Or would you like to switch back over to playing victim again for awhile?
Bottom line, from my perspective things are not working out so well for you. It seems like you struggle to get along with others, not just your wife.
Wow! Richard, that was Great!
BUT! It makes me wonder... Why Is that Guy Here!?
People Talk about Desperate and Crazy Behavior Being a Cry for HELP. Yes, in this Case, It probably might be!
BUT, +Yes, We have Tried to Help... in all of the Normal Ways. But NORMAL does not seem to be Working!
Is there Any Strategy available that We have been forgetful of that might help us reach this Guy?
Well, maybe not. You know, it is Possible that he is a Sociopathic Predator... basically Sadistic... oh, and Narcissistic! He has an Inflated Self Image of Himself which he tries, and often Succeeds, to Project... through Assertion and Bravado, and it Works just Fine with Most People (a Skill he has honed for Decades).... it works with poor trusting and unsuspecting people who are not accustomed to bothering to examine what people are actually Saying.... Bob Dylan was the same way in Press Interviews. ... but how many Dylan Songs are we still listening too? When the Hypnotic Trance of his inflated self promotion wears thin and expires, we find that most of his Songs simply did not Age Well. History will wonder what everyone saw in Bob Dylan. Hint...Bob was a practiced and convincing Narcissist.
But! Back to OUR subject... If he IS Sociopathic and Predatory, well, .... he is not Asking for Help.... He is here to Victimize us. To bother us and to cream in his pants when he sees that he has us 'going'. Every time he pushes one of our buttons I think he gives a little squirt and couldn't be happier.
Maybe this guy is a Lost Cause. Let God take care of Him.... well, not take 'care' of him, but give him what he Deserves.