Long time no see all! Hope everyone is well! I need advice, didnt know where to put it.
Ill TRY to keep it short.
To fill you in:
- childs mom (whom at first judged my kid and myself for our apparences, etc) has been reaching out to me more because our kids are best friends, and within the past few months the mom I think kinda saw she shouldnt have judged bc we are good people.....
........this mom is extremely competitive though and so is her kid, always makes sure her kid is #1 in academics and success, good....we both value our kids but I mention this because I feel it may have something to do with my issue....
..this mom to me... I wouldnt say is a friend....she texts me only really if she needs something or when the the girls sleep over, small chit chat about school...thats it...other wise is hi /bye. While I would be this ladys friend we have not gotten there yet....
....so anyways...with this virus making schools on line, she asked if her child could come over and I watch her kid 4 days a week and help with schooling...which I have faithfully, for 3 months...and the kid is excellent..no complaints at all...except as restless as older kids are on lockdown I still have to entertain, make sure they (her and my kid) eat, and wake up hours earlier than I normally would (which takes a toll bc Im a full blooded night owl.)
I did this no problem. The mom then...suggests in a backdoor way, that I continue doing this for the summer....in which I have managed to dodge with " I will see about my schedule bc of xyz..." and now, she wants me to take her kid home from school....when and if school starts in the fall....(granted I am going past the house mostly)..
My Issue is:
The bus is available but doesnt like the school bus (either do i though)
We arent really friends enough for me to be taking on all this I feel, and I wonder if shes doing it just to get ahead?
I had to quit so many jobs, sacrifice etc and find work and a lifestyle suitable to my priorities...just so Im able to be more flexable in my kids care...so why cant she??
She also has a husband that doesnt go into work until 430, school gets out at 2.... (but she may ..at some point divorce him??)
she also has a adult son that lives with her, who could help in transport, and the mom has a job which is somewhat flexable in hours.....
.......I just dont want to commit myself soley with this responsibility bc what if my kid wants to do a afterschool club? What if she rides home with another friend one day? What if I take a job where I cant get my kid and my hubby has too and takes her back to his job? What if I have a cold and all I wanna do is go straight home??? Am I being selfish? I feel if the lady didnt have the above resources I would be more inclinced, but I never asked for any help, and take it upon myself to look after my own family...please help, need advice...great family just..I really want to focus on my own responsibilities exp during these trying times....