ANGER 3

Dear Sad Angry and Very Lonely Wolf,

Yes, you are a Joke, but no one's laughing.

You keep Complaining about how EVERYONE HATES YOU. Well, they Only Hate You because you are so Hateful. Look around -- all these People that Hate You, well, they all have Friends that they respect and treat decently, don't they? They Only Pick On You, right? Why do you think that is? Its your Behavior. You Need To SEE How you Come Across to People. Obviously from What People Experience From You, they just can't Help but to Hate you. And that is not just some personal Judgment on my part... it seems to be the Only Fact that you keep dwelling on.

Whatever it IS that you are Doing WRONG, you need to Stop It and start Acting Normal. You Want to be Treated Like a Decent Human Being? Well, you got to ACT like a Decent Human Being.

But this is YOUR THIRD POST, and You are Still presenting yourself as Offended Perfection, and it is Everyone Else Who Is Screwed Up.

You just don't Learn, do you? I could almost bet you are getting very poor Grades. Probably the Only Reason the Teachers pass you on from year to year, with probably no grade better than a D, is because they want you to eventually Graduate so they will never have to see you again. And it is all because You Just Don't Learn, do you?

And then what will you do After you Graduate? Behaving like you do, you won't ever be able to Get or Hold a Job. You'll live with your Family forever, if they will have you, or you will live on the streets and be some kind of a Bum. And here is the Sad Part... none of the Other Bums will like you either.

Back long ago in the 20th Century they would Institutionalize the Very Dysfunctional People. It just seemed the Best Course all around. These Dysfunctional People would have a Roof Over their Heads, and three meals a day, and they wouldn't be Out There Causing Trouble with everyone they meet. But the Rich People decided that they didn't want to Pay Taxes, and that the Homeless People never came into their neighborhoods anyway. So the Institutions went away... most are closed down now. And so you won't even have THAT Option.

You need to Change, but first you need to Want to Change. And that doesn't appear to be happening. It just appears to seem Impossible for you to THINK That Far. Perhaps it is because you have a Disability, in that regards, and you simply can't Help Yourself. Well, if that is the Case, there is Nothing Any of US can do about it, is there?

No i am not perfect, i got bully for four year and being called everything from their name, all i want is to my family and every want who to leave me alone because i can't take a joke and i hate being surround with people's that's why i am here to released anger not on your people's but those people's in school because i hate humor and don't like being around my family and i throw away my award in school because their bullying me and even some the c*** teacher i can say c*** because people's think i am homosexual

Bullying is a horrible thing to be sure. You must understand that you have great worth and value to this world regardless of what others may try to tell you. It may be hard, lonely and sad but you must always remember that you are a wonderful creation with purpose. Take whatever lessons you can learn from this horrible abuse and use those lessons to help others and speak out against such terrible things. You can make a difference in the lives of many. Never return evil for evil. It may seem difficult but love and pray for those who abuse you.

Okay and thank you Jeff Grillo i will learn from my mistake keep on fighting well on whatever you are fighting.

with the years passing by I have found that the most successful way to control anger/stress is biofeedback.

RenataR wrote:with the years passing by I have found that the most successful way to control anger/stress is biofeedback.

What does 'biofeedback' entail? It sounds like one must depend upon thousands of dollars worth of complicated equipment to give one some objective verification that One is indeed relaxed. Well, obviously you can't walk around with a Laboratory of Medical Equipment strapped to your back, so one would assume that Biofeedback only TELLS YOU in a Lab Setting when you are Relaxed, and it is UP to You to remember What that Feels Like, and How you were able to Achieve that State of Relaxation... sitting in a nice peaceful and quiet Semi-Medical Office.

Well, if such is the Case, then one can only justify the Cost of enrolling in a "Biofeedback Program" if one seriously has no idea of WHAT it feels like to be Relaxed, and even IF They Did, that they would be Clueless in regards to Knowing How to Get There.

And Besides, THAT does not appear to be the Typical Problem with Angry People... that they Don't Know what Relaxation Is or How to Achieve It, NO... I believe that the PROBLEM is much more Elemental. Chronically Angry People are Drawn toward Anger... they Crave the Excitement... they are Hooked on the Adrenaline Rush that their Rage provides. In such a Case, Being Relaxed is the LAST THING they are actually looking for or think that they Need.

if we can get people to REALIZE that it is a GOOD THING to be Relaxed, and that it is actually a BAD THING to be Angry All the Time, then that Realization In and Of Itself would virtually be a Tantamount to a CURE... of course, given enough Time to Process such a Transformative Realization. But Angry People often don't SEE Their Anger as being a Problem, or they don't appreciate the Extent of their Problem (that is, they believe that only the most Berserk and Violent Anger is Bad, or the Compulsive and Unrelenting THINKING of Anger is Troubling to them), BUT on the General Life Principles that they use to Justify their Anger... they have no Basic Problem with It.... you see, Angry People often don't See their 'Anger' as Anger (not the same way as is obvious to Every One else that has to deal with Them)... they see their 'Anger' as "Fighting the Good Fight, and Standing Up for Themselves.... they Totally Justify all of their Horrible Behaviors under the Cloak of Self-Righteous Indignation.)

But yes, I shall give Biofeedback a try... if I ever should find that I have too much money and time on my hands...

dear
Hi
loner_wolf

I was bullied throughout my high school and my grade schooling years I was treated like a joke brought me to the darkest part of my life. And was thinking to end it, my life but in their constant attacks on me I realised should not give up thinking that they want me to break and quit so I used that as a fuel. I studied hard and I pursued my passion in art and music.I fought them not by using not my fist and words but instead, I used my mind and hard work and let my action do the talking and show them I no joke and earning their respect and more . People in this world sometimes cruel but we can never lose faith in humanity because not all of them two face hypocrite like you have said many of us are but not all. my friend open your eyes to the bright side because if you let your pain and anger towards others you will be sadder and more empty even worst than your feeling right now. stand up not by fighting them or beating them in a fist fight, fight them in a way that at the end they will respect you not hate you more.

Leo lovont. U shld be shame of the way u talk to lone wolf. U obviously hv no post high school education.what credentials do u hv that allow u to dissect and criticise the thoughts and feelings of lone wolf or anyone else? If anyone's a joke it's u not lone wolf.lone wolf deserves the same respect and decency as everybody else. Even u leo. Try to add compassion and sympathy to ur arsenal and it just might offset the disdain that clearly governs ur behavior.i hope u don't view this post as a personal attack on u, it is not. there are many ways to treat the less informed, and rudely shld not be one of them.god bless leo

tonekowski wrote:Leo lovont. U shld be shame of the way u talk to lone wolf. U obviously hv no post high school education.what credentials do u hv that allow u to dissect and criticise the thoughts and feelings of lone wolf or anyone else? If anyone's a joke it's u not lone wolf.lone wolf deserves the same respect and decency as everybody else. Even u leo. Try to add compassion and sympathy to ur arsenal and it just might offset the disdain that clearly governs ur behavior.i hope u don't view this post as a personal attack on u, it is not. there are many ways to treat the less informed, and rudely shld not be one of them.god bless leo

Dear Tonekowski,

Yes, I admit that I often make a mistake or two, but still, over all, I trust my experience and judgment. Please just Stay with the Forum here for a couple years and get used to the different types of Posters we get here. Some People sincerely want Help with their Anger, but Others come here either to Brag about the Intensity of All their Drama, or to seek Justification for their Anger -- that is they Explain their Anger Episode and expect us all to say "Yes, I would have Acted Crazy Too".

Being Nice to the People who Only Want Support FOR their Anger is NOT the purpose of Anger Management, don't you think? People should Realize that This is Not the Place to go to Seek Approval for all their Reprehensible Behaviors. this is not a 12 Step Program.