Dizal wrote:How can one overcome fear of judgments?
Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Dizal wrote:How can one overcome fear of judgments?
There are certain judgments you fear...not every judgment...or at least there is a certain type of judgment you fear more than others, e.g. your physical appearance, your ability to socialize, etc.
dayosamuel wrote:Could you consider answering:
What gets me into pretending to people?
Is it because I want to appear in a way bigger than I really am, or I don't want to own up to who I really am?
Dizal wrote:dayosamuel wrote:Could you consider answering:
What gets me into pretending to people?
Is it because I want to appear in a way bigger than I really am, or I don't want to own up to who I really am?
because i feel like i am not good enough i tell myself to fake it. i am scared if people know who i really am, they will judge me so bad and abandon me. But the problem with faking is that one day i will appear so happy and the other day i will look sad, angry and unhappy for no apparent reason. when these happens, people don't know what to make out of this and they get very confused. i feel bad about that but cant help it. when i tried to be myself, i feel angry and sad so i fake being happy because i don't want people to see my really emotions.
Thank you for your help:)
Dizal wrote:Yes I would love to change so I am willing to try anything that works .
dayosamuel wrote:[quote="
I produced an audio program that may be helpful to you, I couldn't share here so I am seen to be spamming the forum.
I would have sent it to you as a message, but it's spammy as well.
Dizal wrote:dayosamuel wrote:[quote="
I produced an audio program that may be helpful to you, I couldn't share here so I am seen to be spamming the forum.
I would have sent it to you as a message, but it's spammy as well.
Thanks for that, would it be possible to send it by email? Could send u my email.
Thanks in advance.
I am mainly concerned about my social skills , i don't know how to keep conversation going. i am scared before i even start talking because i am afraid that i will sound so boring and people will lose interest in what i have to say. not only that but i am always thinking that people are staring at me and judging me on how i am behaving and acting.
NEVER fake it. be who you really are. when you start to fake it, others will get used to this fake personae your giving them, it turns into how they will always perceive you. . and when you finally give them your real self, that is when they will judge you the most.because i feel like i am not good enough i tell myself to fake it.