quietvoice wrote:moonlightress wrote:Richard, know this: you’re not welcome in this thread.
This ought to be interesting, I'm thinking to myself.
I would try to make it interesting quietvoice, but obviously this thread is dead before it even starts. And you have heard some version of this story by me more than once.
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A nice clear day, Sally walks up the stairs in front of the town square. Like any other day, there are any number of townspeople going about their business, and as always when a person begins to speak from the top of the stairs a dozen or so people turn to listen.
“Attention everyone,” Sally begins, “I want to discuss the fascinating benefits of astrology and how it can give you strength to deal with all types of adversity, but first I want everyone to know that Bob is not welcome to speak. I can’t stop him from climbing these stairs and offering his opinion, but Bob is (insert various compliments). So if Bob does speak, then that will show disrespect and prove my point.
People listening start turning to each other, “Who is Bob? What does he have to say that is so upsetting to Sally? Why does Sally want to silence Bob? If astrology gives such benefits, shouldn’t Sally be strong enough to handle Bob’s opinions? Does Sally really think that trying to use social guilt and manipulate people is a sign that she is strong? That is what astrology offers? Where is this Bob guy? I want to hear him speak and decide for myself what is so awful about him.”
Inadvertently, Sally has just made the topic all about Bob. Sally has derailed her own topic before it has even begun. Astrology is now an afterthought as the townspeople want to know what makes Bob such a horrible person. Even more people begin to gather around, waiting to see if Bob will show.
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A common tactic in discourse is the metaphorical “Scarlett Letter” where a person tries to shame or guilt a person into silence. I understand why people use it, because it works. It can be a very effective tool, especially in cultures or communities where the use of public shaming is widespread. Ironically, it works very well in social justice communities that are intolerant of intolerance. It works on individuals that buy into the concept of shaming. It works on individuals that fear being publicly criticized.
Hint: I’m not one of those people.
And I encourage anyone interested in public discourse to never allow another person to use this tactic against you. Never allow another person’s weakness to guilt you into silence in the town square.
Where is Bob?