Limited by low-vision at young age

I'm not legally blind or anything (yet) My mother is and I inherited her eyes. I was born with extreme myopia, and grew up with bottle thick glasses. I was so ashamed of it I went in for eye surgery at 18 and had artificial lenses implanted in both eyes thinking it would magically fix everything. The lenses I had implanted are for some reason abnormally "shiny' and I have terrible glares and i basically can't drive at night (at least i shouldn't) Not to mention I actually still need to wear BIFOCAL glasses which i dont. I just rely on reading glasses more than an 80 year old and make do with my distance vision.

Here's the problem... I am a single 21 year old man. I am built well, good looking and hard working, shouldn't have any problems with confidence on a first date to meet a woman right? Well If i am sitting in a dimly lit area of a restaraunt with a light hanging low above the table, the glares basically cover the other persons face to the extent that i can't even see their facial expressions. Check out what's on the menu or show me a picture on your phone? Yeah let me just pull out my reading glasses like an old person. Leave the restaurant? Oh yeah it's dark and i can't see to drive. Oh you want to have kids one day? I hope you don't mind that they will probably be born with eye problems that will give them hell their whole life. You want to travel when you retire? Hope you have fun because I'll probably be blind as a bat when I'm in the position to retire.

WTF am i supposed to do?! I talk to a good friend about it and told them that the day my eyes go is the day I go and that I am considering a vasectomy so I don't have kids that have these problems. I want a family but I would never adopt (it's just not me) and I am terrified that my kids would have the same problems as me. Not to mention that I am picky about choosing a girl (ironically) and how am I suppose to find someone that would want to marry into all this mess?!

P.S due to my specific vision problems, surgical correction options are pretty limited. and obviously might not have the best results.