Girlfriend Found Out That I Lied About My Virginity

MikeBrown333 wrote: i am in desperate need of help.
....Losing her at this point would destroy me ... After everything we've been through i don't know what i'll do...

I agree you need help, but probably not for the reason you believe. You need help, because you are not ready for a serious relationship. You are being hyper emotional and overly dramatic. You have known this girl for all of 3 months? It will not destroy you. You haven't been through very much, unless you want to fill us in on how you two relied on each other to sneak out of war torn Syria together in the trunk of a car. You exchanged instagram passwords? WTH? What type of BS, goofy, adolescent crap is that?

I don't know, maybe you are a full on adult or maybe you are an adolescent struggling with hormones, but your desperation is misplaced. You need to take a healthy step back and recognize there is not a single relationship in the world that will quote, destroy you when it is over. One day your family, friends, and loved ones will die and those relationships ending will not destroy you either.

Reset your passwords and take back your accounts and your life. Tell her she can trust you without having your passwords or you hers. Enjoy spending time and developing the relationship without being dramatic. Don't apologize for being a virgin. She is probably more out of sorts that you were discussing that you were going to have sex.

We're both 17, and we we both struggled with suicidal thoughts when we met. We helped each other out of an extremely dark place, and only we know how miserable each other were at some points.

Everyone has suicidal thoughts at one point or another. Ok maybe not everyone, but at least most people I know and heard of.
I agree with Richard.
I think you give yourself too much credit, and I think both of you exaggerated that dark place when you talked about it to one another. At least thats my experience, but hey, everyone is different.
I also agree bigger issue here is you exchanging passwords at 3 month relationship, and not just learning to trust each other. You are not doing your relationship any favors by doing that.
Another issue, at least for me, would be, what gives her the right to even read your old messages? Its your life, what you deem private should be private until you feel like sharing. Its not for anyone to go through your messages to read about your past.
Also, no one cares, or should care if you are a virgin or not, it should even be a plus in my book.

At first i thought you lied telling her you where virgin WHEN you WHERE NOT, but as i can get you are actually virgin, so what's the matter? Dude why should you be ashamed? I mean if i was her i would feel honored, This makes things even more special don't you think?
And even if you weren't virgin it's not something you have to feel bad for

Anyway I think she should just feel happy about it, maybe it's just a big misunderstanding

I would not feel comfortable if someone take away my privacy and read my conversations i have with family members, friends, because thats just too much

I would not mind if my partner asks "who is she?" I would let her know who she is but there is no need to read my conversations

Virgin or not, that is not what you should focus on, you should focus to have good times in your life, and take what you deserve,

MikeBrown333 wrote:I'll try to keep this brief but i am in desperate need of help.

I lied to my girlfriend of 3 months about my sexual experience.. ..

How big a lie? What did you tell her exactly?

I don't see where the big deal is. You're a young lad and you told her a trivial fib about having more sexual experiences than in fact you've actually had... is that it?? Is this what you fear is the big deal breaker in this 3-month relationship??

Is she not the kind of person who would just shake her head and laugh at you saying "silly boy!"? Is she not the kind to think about why you would lie about such a thing, and whether you set out to hurt her or take her for a fool by telling the lie?? If she was a devout christian and you had had unprotected sex with a hundred men & women but told her you were a virgin THEN the story might make some sense!

I think the truth is that you don't really even know what your gf is thinking about all this, and you are already catastophizing about your future. That's something you must address yourself. She doesnt want to talk about the matter anymore... she's immature and is perhaps still trying to process a triviality. Fine. Don't talk about it. Lighten the mood, do some fun things together.... move on, let it go.