Hey everyone, i'm new here so bear with me
I feel alone in this situation and am not sure where to turn.
My GF of 6 months appears to have some anger issues. She was raised in a bad home with a mother who always yelled, was very controlling and condescending. At 16 she was in an abusive relationship for almost 3 years. I'm not sure if this background is relevant as we discussed these were parts of her past and no longer effected her.
Nonetheless, here I stand. I'm now afraid to tell her when I feel she is being unnecessarily angry at me or irrational. I used to tell her, but it only made her boil up and get even more irritated. When she raises her voice to me I just shut down and try to remove myself from the situation. I've told her many times I don't appreciate her raising her voice to me and I believe it is unnecessary. Its all good and dandy for 3-4 days and then out of nowhere something small will set her off and she gets extremely irritated and irrational about something, always raising her voice and yelling at me.
These circumstances happen every few days or so. Some examples: She asked what type of fruit I wanted with breakfast at the grocery store. I told her it didn't matter - she got mad
I suggested we buy a different brand of mushrooms so we didn't have to go to a grocery store thats a 20 minute walk each way - she got irritated and upset
I want to help her cope, but I'm at a loss for what to do. She doesn't think I listen to her when shes yelling at me and the matter of fact is, I just don't want to be yelled at anymore. I've told her so many times the way she speaks to me is demeaning, but she seems to think it isn't. She is so convinced the way she is talking to me is normal and ok.
I love her and she makes me a better person, but this issue is slowly building up to become an issue and one that is now affecting me.
Can you tell me if you think she has an anger problem?
What can I do to help resolve this?
Thank You