anxiety about what if I am not good enough for my salary?

**Posts:** 367 · by **Hamming** » Wed Sep 03, 2014 4:30 pm

I am often tired of the job and thinking what an I do about it. Is it the job fault or I am too sensitive.

One thought came - maybe I get tired because I am often not sure enough if I am good enough for what I earn.

You could say that if I got such salary, it means I am worth it. But I think the market is changing, and maybe there are new good people who can work cheaper.

And I dont know how to deal with it. I cannot ask my boss if I am good enough for my salary every month. He might easily not be honest and make me work cheaper than I am worth it by making me think that I am not worth it.

I think I would be much happier if I earn honest money - knowing that I am not cheated and did not cheat who is paying for me.

Like when I was freelancing - I got a task, I did it for the predefined price, and I have money which I know 95 % that I was worth it and I earned not by cheating but honestly and I was happy on one hand, but on the other hand I was not happy because I was underpaid for sure, I could not live from it even, so go freelancing is not an option.

If I am really worth what I get, then I should just maybe put a paper with big text on the wall so every morning before going to job I read and I get it in my head that I am worth what I earn.

But there are many people who are overrating themselves and I do not want to be one of them by just having false believe that I am worth it.

Any ideas how can I become calm and not overrating myself?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Sep 03, 2014 6:56 pm

By default you are worth everything you get paid. If you were worth more, you would be promoted, if you were worth less you would be fired. If they could hire someone to do your job for less they would.

Say you see someone getting paid more than you and you think they work less than you. Do they deserve to be paid more than you? Yes, because the fact is they are getting paid. Your opinion doesn't count much, your perspective is not the one that matters. What you see is not what the boss of that other person sees.

Consider, there is an important psychological strategy when looking for a job. Do you apply for the job making $50,000 a year or $140,000 a year? Psychologically, many people eliminate themselves from the $140k position, because they think they are not worth that much. So, 100 people end up applying for the $50k job and only 3 people end up applying for the $140k job.

Bottom line, what any one person is worth is very subjective and relative, but at the end of the day by definition, YOU ARE worth whatever you are currently being paid.

**Posts:** 367 · by **Hamming** » Wed Sep 03, 2014 7:15 pm

if you were worth less you would be fired. If they could hire someone to do your job for less they would.

The thing is I think - if I am slightly less worth, they maybe are giving me time to show what I can do, checking if I will improve. And I might not know that, but when I don't hear them they might be calling me bad worker and one day I got fired after their patience ends.

So I don't want to reach the day when I am so little worth that I got fired, that is too late.

Also if I am worth it now, then I can relax. And if I finally relax and enjoy the job, I am afraid that I will become less valuable and not doing enough for my salary.

And I prefer being less productive but feeling calm and enjoying and I would accepts smaller salary than being maximum productive but not enjoying work. But if I now relax, should my salary go down or otherwise I am cheating? Or I should relax and test them how they react - do they fire me, or do they say something that I became lazy?

**Posts:** 105 · by **whybotherwhynot** » Thu Sep 04, 2014 3:25 am

LOL. You're worrying too much. Most of the times I only heard people complained about overloaded work and underpayment.

Look around and observe how your co-workers work. If you think you are not worth, or don't work enough, for your salary, then find more things to do. When you want to work more, there are always things for you to do. When you don't work enough, sooner or later, your boss will know. Just be honest. Enjoy the salary your boss pays you and work your best for him.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Thu Sep 04, 2014 8:02 am

Is it possible that you could have more powerful self talk with regards to money. This video can help you, headphones recommended

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qywxg7 ... YwdCN2DLoN

**Posts:** 367 · by **Hamming** » Fri Sep 05, 2014 2:30 pm

Most of the times I only heard people complained about overloaded work and underpayment.

I am not saying there is too little work

but I try to not complain about overload. With underpayment its easy - why not change job if you are underpayed and your boss does not pay what you are worth.

Another chance is that they are just thinking that they are under-payed - but not finding the job where they would get payed what they think they are worth

if they are not finding that job, then I doubt that they are underpayed

At least my friend who works in similar area and is better than me thinks that I am underpayed. Of course he does not see how I work and how productive I am, but hopefully he is right and I can calm down.

**Posts:** 1554 · by **laureat** » Fri Sep 05, 2014 4:52 pm

You plant a seed, and that is all you need to do, than you just wait for the tree to grow and take the fruits,

But what you saying is " i dont deserve these fruits "

Now i understand that, because we have been robbed all the time, now we get surprised if one day all fruits are there, the mind thinks hey, why nobody is robbing?

**Posts:** 367 · by **Hamming** » Sat Sep 06, 2014 8:16 am

But what you saying is " i dont deserve these fruits "

no, I am just not knowing what I deserve. Or how much of fruits I do deserve. Ok, I will try to believe that I deserve what I get now, because my fried told that and his guess might be reasonable.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sat Sep 06, 2014 11:20 am

You deserve an abundance of wealth just because you exist

**Posts:** 1554 · by **laureat** » Sat Sep 06, 2014 4:11 pm

Someone believe " I do not deserve, I am not worth this money.. "
Someone maybe unsure
Someone believe " I deserve, I am worth it "

unsure itself is the first step we make from one belief to another,

Write down 5 to 10 reasons everyday about one week. Why you think you are worth the money, to strengthen a new way of thinking, a new belief, after writing down 10 reasons forget about all this,

We dont want to keep on state of mind: unsure or reasoning, prioritize relaxation, writing down 10 reasons about this is enough; you dont want to obsess too much on this, you want to be relaxed, or excited about having good times there...

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