Not happy with my job. Should I quit?

Learning to love yourself more will help you to trust your instinct more. Here's a video that can help, I mean, what is the best that can happen?

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calmy12 wrote:I feel like handing in my resignation letter next week. But I am scared of making poor decicions. I'm worried of having no income. I wish I had save up for the rainy days.

Work is making me sad. New staff will be starting next week. Our office is over crowded and can not fit another desk. I had volunteered to give up my desk space to the new staff. My manager was thrilled about it. I bet he was waiting for me to say that. I will be using other people's desks during their "off" days.

The money may be tight at first, but if you're not happy, you should leave. do what you enjoy doing.

My advice to you would be don't quit until you have found another job. I know it's very attempting to quit especially when things are really really bad. But you may end up regretting it, because as soon as your income stops coming, and you're faced with all these financial obligations (mortgage/rent, living expenses, etc.), you'll be stuck, and you will probably end up regretting making such a rash decision without thinking about the consequences.

So instead of concentrating on how unhappy you are with the current position, spend you time and energy on finding a new job. If you search actively and diligently, I'm sure you'll be able to find one.

Good luck!

calmy12 wrote:I feel like handing in my resignation letter next week. But I am scared of making poor decicions. I'm worried of having no income. I wish I had save up for the rainy days.

Work is making me sad. New staff will be starting next week. Our office is over crowded and can not fit another desk. I had volunteered to give up my desk space to the new staff. My manager was thrilled about it. I bet he was waiting for me to say that. I will be using other people's desks during their "off" days.

Calmy, I don't think you should quit unless you have enough saved up to retire. I have been reading your posts and responding occasionally for roughly a year now and the issue is simple. It is not about where you work, it is about your own self-confidence. Transferrring to another job is not likely going to change that situation. In your case, building your self-esteem should be your focus.

How can love quickly turn into hate?

Up until now, I've been thinking about Dave. Feeling melancholic over him and also worrying about when the company will lay me off.

Today, I was feeling very nervous and remained very silent at work. I barely speak to people.
My new manager gave Dave work to do - work that I used to do in the past. Then, Dave complained, "this sucks. I think we both need an admin staff to do this type of work."

I can't believe that this came out of his mouth. I'm the admin staff. I am upset because I was supposed to be doing that type of work and now Dave probably thinks that I'm useless because I wasn't doing it

Dave stole the spotlight. He was able to fix the computer etc.

I really want to escape from this company. I never felt so embarrassed in my life. The more I see Dave, the more depressed I feel. Sometimes, I feel hopeful when he talks to me in a cheerful manner. Other times, I get hurt when he does the opposite. I just want this feeling to stop!!! Why is it I'm the one who is feeling sad over him and not vice versus?

I want to quit. But I know that I need to find a new job first or else I don't have income.

calmy12 wrote: Dave stole the spotlight. He was able to fix the computer etc.

I just want this feeling to stop!!! Why is it I'm the one who is feeling sad over him and not vice versus?

I want to quit. But I know that I need to find a new job first or else I don't have income.

Dave didn't steal anything. Fixing a computer is not a "spotlight moment" for someone like Dave. It is like riding a bicycle for Dave. Anyone can ride a bike with a little practice. Dave has his light shining on other things.

You need to focus on you, not Dave. There is no reason for Dave to feel sad...he did fix the computer after all.

Are you willing to change?

If you really need the job, try deep adjusting, but if that is not matter and you are not happy, you may better quit and find the job that you will be happy.

A stressful day today. Yesterday I phoned a company to arrange for a collection and deliveries of parts. Today, I received a phone call saying they can't make it today - will have to wait until Monday. When I told this to my boss, he sounded very disappointed. I was blushing in embarrasment. Dave walked in and stared at me and later walked out of the room as if he doesn't want to get involved.

This makes me realised that if Dave had love me, he would have asked me if I needed assistance. But he didn't.

After work, I drove to several places in order to find the parts. Eventually, I found them and I had to used my own money to pay for them. I could claim my money back, but I don't know...

As I drove back home, I could feel the tears stinging my eyes. I asked myself why am I doing this to myself? First, being in love with someone who doesn't love me back hurts.
Secondly, I want to quit the company but I couldn't. I have lots of incomplete work to do. If I quit people at work would think I'm irresponsible.

Dear calmy12,

I've been reading your posts for quite awhile, I feel very sad to see what you've been suffering.

However, I can't imagine how you could be going on with such bad situation for so long? If you are in a bad situation and you want it to change to be better, you need to think hard how and what you should do to change it. But so far, I don't see you do anything differently.

With love, don't be stupid to love someone blindly when that person does not love you back. You can't blame someone who does not love you when you love that person so much. Everyone loves someone because s/he finds nice things and good interests in that person. And when the two see that they both have something in commons and can get along, then they like/love each other. Otherwise, love can't be forced. Let go of Dave. It's not that there's nobody else in this whole world. If you think you can only love Dave and you want to sacrifice yourself for him, go for it, and don't complain. I heard somebody say: Love is giving and sacrificing. You don't expect for the returns.

With work, from what you tell this forum, I don't think it's going to get better for you. You really need to work very hard on looking for a job somewhere else and learn to get along with others in the new workplace. If you try to stay here any longer when you are not happy it will only make you sick. Besides, later or sooner the employer will find way to let you go. Have courage to let go of something you don't like and find new things you like.

Nowadays, people quit job and find a new job all the times. Nobody would say someone who quits job is irresponsible.

i pray for you to have courage to look for something new and better in life and wish you all the best in the future, calmy12.

Learn to do what is right for you, learn to put yourself first, be your own best friend.

Today turned out ok. Thank God for that! The parts got delievered after making phone calls to the company early this morning. I feel like I function much better and more confident when Dave isn't around. Maybe it's because he's too outspoken whereas I'm too shy...

Good news

calmy12 wrote:New staff will be starting next week. Our office is over crowded and can not fit another desk. I had volunteered to give up my desk space to the new staff. My manager was thrilled about it. I bet he was waiting for me to say that. I will be using other people's desks during their "off" days.

If the office is over crowded, then it is up to the manager to organise something, not for you to give up your space.

I phoned a company to arrange for a collection and deliveries of parts. Today, I received a phone call saying they can't make it today - will have to wait until Monday. When I told this to my boss, he sounded very disappointed. I was blushing in embarrasment.

You have done your job properly - you had nothing to be embarrassed about!

After work, I drove to several places in order to find the parts. Eventually, I found them and I had to used my own money to pay for them. I could claim my money back, but I don't know...

Calmy, you rang the company, you told the boss the outcome... If your manager needed it furthering, then he could have organised it. Don't let yourself be walked all over, and you need to tell your boss how the parts 'magically' appeared in front of him and that you want reimbursing for it (and for the extra time you took).

As I drove back home, I could feel the tears stinging my eyes. I asked myself why am I doing this to myself?

I don't know - my guess is that you believe you don't deserve better. You do!! You come across as a thoughtful, hardworking individual who needs a good old helping of self-esteem. Start being kind to yourself and give yourself a pat on the back EVERY time you do well

First, being in love with someone who doesn't love me back hurts.

It certainly does sadly though, if he has someone else, then I reckon you'd be better to try to put it behind you.

Secondly, I want to quit the company but I couldn't. I have lots of incomplete work to do. If I quit people at work would think I'm irresponsible.

Don't you dare quit until you've made them aware of what a good worker you are. Although it sounds as though you don't owe the company anything, working on your self-esteem might be a better idea - otherwise you'll no doubt repeat these scenarios wherever you move to.

Calmy, come on, treat yourself well. Take care