calmy12 wrote: So why can't I get over him?
Because your infatuated with a fantasy. When you start focusing your time and energy on other things, socialize with others and form new, real relationships you will get over your fantasy.
calmy12 wrote: So why can't I get over him?
calmy12 wrote:"Because your infatuated with a fantasy. When you start focusing your time and energy on other things, socialize with others and form new, real relationships you will get over your fantasy."
D is a real person. He's not a fictional character. I'm not sure what you mean by a 'fantasy'.
"When you start focusing your time and energy on other things..."
This is the hard part. For me, it means to let go of something. Half of me is holding onto the belief that that things will change... It's like those people spending money on buying lottery tickets knowing that the chance of winning is small, but they keep on holding to the belief that they will win... When you feel crushed, it's really hard to concentrate and focus on other things.
calmy12 wrote:I don't suffer from hullucinations/Schizophrenia/delusions or whatever you called it.
What I'm going through is an ordinary crush or lovesickness. ie. I fell for D but the love is not returned and I am sad about it.
I cried in the car in the middle of the night, thinking about D as I listened to love songs like, Unchained melody and Nights in white satin... I still listen to those music everyday because those songs make me sad and comfy.
I could be daydreaming about the romantic side of D. ie I do long for the moment where I have my arms wrapped around D's body. However, the truth is, D at this moment properly isn't thinking about me. He could be sitting in the couch with his wife watching tv.
I don't know what to say about me. I know if I keep carrying on like this, I will be sabotaging my life because time doesn't stop for me.
I think the environment has an affect on my situation. If I had not worked for this company, I would not have fell for D.
calmy12 wrote:What I'm going through is an ordinary crush or lovesickness.
I understand that if I don't be care, this crush can get out of hand and be deadly. I admit that at one stage, I fell so deeply in love with D. I wanted him so bad and I felt hopless. I cried in the car in the middle of the night, thinking about D as I listened to love songs like, Unchained melody and Nights in white satin... I still listen to those music everyday because those songs make me sad and comfy.
calmy12 wrote:D is back from his leave. He looks a lot older but I still find him very attractive and handsome. Just wish he was mine. He's planning to take another leave next month. That says it all.
but my life seems like it's missing something when I don't think of him.
When I think of D, I get a sense of hope. Even though it causes disappointment...
like today just after work, I saw him coming in the bus. instead of entering the front door where I was standing, he walked in the back door with another collegue and I felt like a loner while they both talk on the bus.