You are right both of you Hardlife37 and Julius Fawcett. I agree with what you are saying and happy you are giving me support in this because I feel so alone in real life. I got support from my husband, my 3 friends and grandma. No one else understands the situation. At some point my little brother came with me shopping and he noticed that girls give me really bad looks and they take a certain cold tone of voice with me. I don't dress like a slutt, I just dress in very expensive ways apparently and I show of my curves but without showing skin. So when I got to my in-laws, it's the same thing the women give me looks from far and they don't come talk to me. Few years ago many times I used to come t them smile, compliment them and even offering them to hang out, but they never looked interested, they made me understand quickly that I wasn't their preffered choice. So became more distant with them, I stopped trying because after years of trying it's a sign that these people are not for me. So I show up rarely with my husband to events in my in-laws to show we have better things to do, we are busy and can have fun without them. We often tell them we spend great time having fun with friends, doing activities, going in spas to let them know that we are god together. I will listen to what you said that they want to see me angry they want me to get in the shadow,to lose my nice body. I noticed that they get along very wel with women who are not very attractive physially or mentally. They like the kind of women who are bubble heads and who agree with everything they say while me I am more stiking to my opinion, I have different opinions and I am nothing like them and that was quite obvious in the first meeting. They judge alot my hisband when I am there and when they saw I defended him, and I didn't agree with their judgements that's when the cold began and also the negative looks i got from the way I was dressing and they often complaint about their weight issues. They seem doubtful when I complimented them in the past. Anyway now is now and it's hard not to get angry when they start saying negative things about our choices up front. But I shouldn't show anger, but at the same time i can stand for my ground and tell them : ''Listen I do not agree with your opinion and you are wasting your advices and opinions on me and my husband because we do not agree with your'' I can also say without getting angry in a firm and strong tone '' I do not need your comments or negative opinion '' while looking straight in the eyes...would that be good?
I know so far the biggest slap in the face to give them is to not go often to their parties.That shows that we have better things to do. It's never good to see too often people who try t put us down.