I qualify this problem as being part of trouble speaking in public. I hope someone can help me by giving me some good advice and answering my question. First of all I have a disease related to diabetes. So my doctor told me it's not good for me to drink and I am following a very healthy diet. When I go in public places like restaurants, family events, waiters and some family member look at me like I'm a weirdo because I tell them I don't drink because of my disease and they still look at me surprised and like I was a weirdo because some of them have the same disease as me and they still drink so they think I won't be careful about my health. The thing is I am happy the way I am, I don't drink not just because of my disease, but because it's unhealthy and I don't like it. I am a grown up, but it seems like I am being looked at badly because I don't follow other adults and drink with them to events. Some of them ask me why I don't drink after many times I told them I got a disease related to diabetes and it would be unsafe for me to drink my doctor said.
But they still act like assholes and bitches about it. I normally keep my feelings inside, but I would like to tell the people who don't respect my choices in a very confidant way and dominant way something like that : '' I told you many times the reason I don't drink, is it hard to understand?'' ''Why do you drink? You always ask me the same thing, let's turn the question to you see if you like it'' Would that be a good answer? Let's be honest here : these people are idiots, assholes and bitches, they are the type who like picking on someone and making him/her feel insecure. So toward these types of people, I know it's good to show you got confidence, dominance and you stand your ground without showing your anger, just talking to them like if THEY were the weird ones, like if they were the ones who have a problem. So they see I don't let myself be spoken to a certain way. Anyone have a opinion on that? Remember I am talking about people who are back stabbers, jealous and grown ups who think they are acting the right way , but inside they are all not happy and it buggs them to see I am happy in life without alcohol.