ending therapy

hey there

i stopped going to my therapy a couple of weeks ago for the same reason, i think the problem is cause its costly you feel as though it has to work and its the only thing that will sort you out, but the truth is its more a basis or grounding to helping understand your thoughts, and that involes alot of ups and downs, the irony is when ur up u dont think u need it and when ur down u dont think its workin so y spend the cash!

jus try and see it as a habitual activity like brushing ur teeth! and if u cant afford it get on a nhs waitng list a maybe go to your therapist wen u can afford it till ur wait is over?

It isnt a sprint its a marathon of growth! sorry that sounds a bit new age!

good luck!

Hi hestia, welcome to the forum!

Sorry to hear that your therapy wasn't doing the trick for you! It's a good idea to be upfront with any therapist. Ask them what they are going to do, and when you will have a review of progress. If you are facing financial difficulties, talk about it straight away. There are often ways around it.

Now you've found this forum, you might want to use it to air the things that are bothering you, and see what people here have to suggest!

What do you want therapy/discussion to help you with?

Kathleen

thanks both of you.

i was three months into a new therapy programme. this followed a change of location and a brief experience with a therapist in training that wasn't the most positive introduction to the process. despite that, the second experience was generally positive and perhaps in time, and with more manageable finances - i would've benefitted further. my problem is actually articulating clearly what that is. both therapists were very non-directive and i began to experience anxiety at the lenghty silences that seemed to compound my lack of self-belief. as i am ordinarily a good communicator, i am deeply frustrated by this - also mute - reponse.

regarding the impetus for seeking therapy...i really had little choice. i've been suffering mild depressive episodes since my late teens, though outwardly i appear happy and am known for my convivial disposition and good humour. two years ago, i came to the end of an abusive relationship, took the rash decision to have an abortion, turned work into a crusade, commenced binge drinking and eating, and eventually fell into a state of chronic depression and found it difficult to leave my house except to go to work. relations with my family and friends deteriorated, particularly with my father, who i continue to be angry with for his abusive treatment (psychological and physical) of our family - but particularly my mother - for many years.

thankfully, i managed to pull myself up following a short stint with the trainee mentioned above (the treatment was through the national health system) and changed job and country. things have been improving somewhat, though the lack of confidence presents itself at various times. following a month after the move i could sense the old dreaded feelings returning so i sought the help of a therapist. i felt constrained by my own inability to articulate my feelings during the session although, as mentioned above, i did feel it was a useful process and I was very much committed to this path until it became financially impossible. i'm also in the process of clearing up some outstanding debts, which has exascerbated my anxiety in the past.after some consideration, ceasing therapy seemed the only option for me at the moment. I'm more concerned at the manner in which I ended it and feel it was rude, if nothing else.

i've also started reading paul gilbert's 'over-coming depression' in a bid to continue with some programme.

so there you go. thanks for reading.

kfedouloff wrote:Hi hestia, welcome to the forum!

What do you want therapy/discussion to help you with?

Kathleen

sorry, was there a point to you asking me?

Hi hestia

What's useful on the forum is to pose a specific question that you have (I'm not saying you have to do that, just that it helps users to focus on something!)

Then we can bounce ideas around that you might find helpful

Kathleen

oh right, as i guessed. maybe with an exclaimation mark here and there. yes, it's that easy isn't it.

i asked a specific query above regarding the manner in which i exited therapy and whether this is was ok. i think that's pretty specific. sorry i can't narrow it down to how it písses me off having to get up this morning but there you go...nice of you to get back to me though.

yes, an example of an angry person here folks !!! *insert inappropriate ridiculous looking smilely face here*

I'm sorry if I got the wrong end of the stick here, hestia.

I think the way you ended your contact with your therapist was perfectly OK. It's often easier to end things by writing rather than speaking, and it's a perfectly good way to do it.

Is the book you are reading proving helpful? What do you particularly like about it, or struggle with?

Kathleen