Not happy with my job. Should I quit?

Find another job BEFORE you quit.

I know it's not easy, but you owe yourself that much.

Either that or throw all caution into the wind and overhaul your life, and backpack around the world as a hobo.

Do not quit, only to stagnate, and retreat into a world of nothing.

Hope that helps.

That's one of the reasons why I haven't quit yet - I'm concerned about the money side.
The company had sent Dave to do a course. This time, he will be away for two months. My plan is to find another job before he comes back. I need to move on.

I really love u DC. But things had changed since you got married. You no longer talk to me the way u used to, or maybe all along I've been getting mixed signals from you.

Last week, I told three of my collegues at work that I was planning on leaving the company soon when I find another job.

Today, my supervisor was discussing to my Manager about a new staff starting tomorrow. Seems like that new staff will be doing my work because I overheard them saying I will have to teach the new staff how to do filing etc.

Lately, the company is being very secretive. Usually, when new staff starts work, I would be informed.

Did I made the mistake to tell my collegues about my plans? I'm feeling confused. Should I act gracefully and teach the new staff what to do when she starts work tomorrow. How do I overcome the embarrasment of being unwanted in the company? I just hope I don't break down tomorrow. Glad that D isn't around. It would be a very embarrassing moment.

I'm still wondering if I should send a txt to D and thank him for all the help he had given me....even though he hardly given me any assistance at work. Perhaps that text will make him think of me once in a while when I do leave the company. Speaking of which, it's being a while since I send him txts - but all the txts I had sent him in the past were work related. What I like about him is that he would replied to all my txts immediately, it's like he's glued to his mobile phone.

Good for you. Keep it up! always think positive. If something goes not well again, treat it as a challenge.

Two weeks had past, and I already miss D.
God! I don't know how to get over him. This crush is making me sad and heart wrenching. I had plans to get some work done at home, but I can't even concentrate. Every minute, I daydream over him.

Make a way.
There's a lot of way to reach him. I'm sure you can able to do it!
Goodluck

There's a lot of way to reach him. I'm sure you can able to do it!

I have tried. Last week, I sent him a text message regarding work and he replied to my enquiry very quickly. But that was it. There was no 'friend-like' talk amongst us two. It's always me who sent him txts and not the other way...

This just proves that he is not interested in me. I just don't understand why I can't let go of him?

I've heard that the more you think of something, eventually you will end up having it - but why is it when I keep reciting to myself, "I love you D, I just wish you could love me back." - and nothing happens?

Speaking about text messages...is there a difference between "Hey" and "Hi"?

In the past, D would replied to my texts with "hey..." but the last text he used
"Hi" with a full stop after my name. Maybe I'm over analysing, "hey" sounds very comforting. But "Hi" with a full stop sounds like he no longer acknowledge me as a friend anymore?

calmy12 wrote:Speaking about text messages...is there a difference between "Hey" and "Hi"?

In the past, D would replied to my texts with "hey..." but the last text he used
"Hi" with a full stop after my name. Maybe I'm over analysing, "hey" sounds very comforting. But "Hi" with a full stop sounds like he no longer acknowledge me as a friend anymore?

Yes, you are over analyzing.

I spent most of Sunday at the cafe working on my laptop. I'm glad I went out because staying at home gives me depression. I need to be surrounded by people. My heart is still aching over D. When will I overcome this lovesickness? Because it's making me sad...

calmy12 wrote: When will I overcome this lovesickness? Because it's making me sad...

When you start doing things that are productive, when you start occupying your time and engaging yourself in real, actual relationships you will overcome the fantasy.

When you start to think mature. Love is not instant, you have to wait for the right one.

It's hard when you a lovesick - just like it's hard for someone who is depressed.

Find some interests/hobbies to do besides your work and thinking of Dave. Don't put all your heart and mind into work and the man you fall for and you don't get any returns; and you just sit there and whine. Some people may have sympathy for you, but you are the one who have to suffer the most.

When you feel upset about work or sad about a failed relationship, go out for a walk or run, or buy a punching bag and punch it. That helps to release your resentment and sadness. And find something else to do like going to the library, find some nice books and movies to read and watch. Join some classes, learn new languages, crafts, make new friends, or do some volunteering work, etc.

Steer your mind away from your workplace and Dave. You will learn life is more than just work and that person. Learn to love yourself. Take care of yourself, restore your energy and be optimistic and radiant. Nobody wants to be around someone who is always angry, sad and negative.

You say: "It's hard when you a lovesick - just like it's hard for someone who is depressed." It's true. But if you try hard to change your thinking and your attitude, you won't be lovesick and depressed. Think about hundreds, thousands or millions of poor people in South Africa or anywhere. When they have to work so hard to get enough food each day for their survival, do they have time to sit there to feel pity for themselves? Do they have time for lovesick? Do they have time to sit in the front of a computer screen and a keyboard to whine with the whole world about this or that for months or years?

Yes, in this world, some people are luckier than others. But mostly your life is what you make it to be.

I find this quote by a philosopher Lao Tzu is very helpful to me: “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”

It's not that I want to "sit here and whine". I'm trying to document my thought patterns and trying to make sense of my feelings. For example, I don't know why I'm holding on to D and can't let go of him. Why have I fallen in love with someone who is so self-centered, and likes to use the F word in every sentence?

The facts are there in front of me but my mind doesn't want to believe them. He doesn't care for me. He never send me text messages like the way he sent to his friends at work. He doesn't stop and wait for me in the bus or stayed back to help me out with my work. So why can't I get over him? Is it because of his looks? He's tall, muscular and has scruffy face - but there are plenty of guys out like D. Why did I fell for him and not other people? Or did I fell for him because he complimented my work in the beginning? But now he no longer does..and when he's around I get scared of him. I can't even talk to him.

I'm holding onto this job because of D. I fear that if go, I wont see D anymore just like I never see my old friends from high school/uni..

Occasionally, I would hear my collegues mentioning about D's wife. My heart would cringe. I just wish I could bump into D and see him kissing his wife. That would properly wake me up from the spell.

Work was stressful but I'm treating this as a learning experience. I've learned a valuable lesson and that is I need to document every thing the person say because if I don't I will end up in deep trouble. I can't believe there are some people who approve for the work to be carried out, but later say they didn't approve it.