Fear and anxiety are the two emotions that hold us back from going out and living our lives. They keep us inside our comfort zone and make us think that even taking a foot outside of it means danger. Although this may be true, with the very first step outside our comfort zone, confidence comes into play. With each step, our confidence grows and grows, until we're living outside out comfort zone on a daily basis.
Here is a story that I wanted to share with everyone about how I stepped outside my comfort zone. I hope it gives you some inspiration to do the same...
“I can’t do this.”
Four words that you’ve probably told yourself more than you would like. When you say them, you feel like you really mean them though. You tell yourself, “I can’t do this,” so you actually believe that you can’t. Here’s a story to demonstrate what I mean…
A few years ago I participated in a triathlon, thanks to some encouragement from friends and family, and not to mention a heck of a lot of self-belief. For a month and a half, I trained hard, almost every day, so that I was ready to give it my all when the big day came. It was the night before the triathlon and I went for one last run, to make sure that I was ready. I loaded up on carbs for dinner that night, so that I would have enough energy to burn in the morning. I went to bed, calm but excited knowing that all my training would be tested in the morning…
“Beep, beep, beep!” went my alarm. It was race day. I got up, had a bowl of oatmeal, and got ready to give it my all. I had put in a lot of hard work and I was going to make sure it was going to pay off. My family and I headed down to where the triathlon was starting. The first event in the triathlon was a swim. Keep in mind, I didn’t feel as though swimming was my strong suit. During my training, I didn’t focus on it as much as I probably should have either. As we got to the race start, there were hundreds of other participants getting ready; preparing themselves mentally, physically, and doing whatever else they needed to in order to ready themselves.
I got in the water and started doing the same. 5 minutes went by, then 10, then 15. I started getting nervous. Was I ready to do this? Could I do this? I had trained for a month and a half for this triathlon. I felt like I was ready, both physically and mentally; but was I really? I began to doubt what I was about to do. I started to think of all the things that could go wrong. Fear began to manifest…
“I can’t do this.”
I started to tell myself those four words. And then I started believing them. Bam! A gunshot signaled the start of the race. Before I knew it, I was off and swimming as fast as I could. Soon enough, I began to realize that I was actually doing it. I was doing what I set out to do: compete in a triathlon! Why did I ever doubt myself? I realized that there was no point of me telling myself that I could not do it, because it was only holding me back. I was doing it, and the only thing that could stop me was me.
Throughout the swim and for the rest of the triathlon, I kept telling myself that I could do it. I focused on those four words and before I knew it, the race was over. My friends and family congratulated me on completing the race and I was happy. I had not only finished my first triathlon, but I had conquered doubt. Doubt holds many people back from believing in themselves.
Some people tell themselves that they “can’t do this,” mainly because they are fearful. Whatever it is that they are fearful of is up in the air, but it is fear that drives many people to not believe in themselves. They don’t believe in themselves because they tell themselves that they can’t do it over and over again.
Soon, they begin to develop a habit, and whenever they approach whatever it is that they were doing that they told themselves they “can’t do” in the future, their immediate response is: “I can’t do this,” once again. They have ingrained a belief in their subconscious. A belief that they really can’t do it. To change a belief that is triggered through doubt, you have to work, and work hard…
In order to overcome your self-doubt, there’s only one thing that you can do: do what I did when I was competing in my triathlon. Tell yourself over and over again that you can. Soon enough, you will start believing that you can. This practice has been around for centuries. The practice is called Affirmation.
Bob Proctor, a success coach, teaches affirmation and believes in its power. He says, “Affirmations are positive statements, which when given to your sub-conscious mind repetitively, have a tendency to alter old habits or old conditioning.” Tell yourself that you can, over and over again, and you will alter your old habit of believing that you cannot. Try practicing affirmations on a daily basis and see where they take you. Through the power of affirmations, I was able to complete my first triathlon.
Think of something that you want to do, but think you are not capable of. Write it down. Now go out and do it. Tell yourself that you can, over and over, and soon enough, you will be doing it. Keep in mind that you have to continuously tell yourself that you can do it though. As soon as doubt begins to creep in, it will quickly manifest itself into fear if you do not force it back out with another affirmation. Make sure that you do not allow doubt to creep in and soon you will be doing things that you thought you would never be doing.
Here’s to continuous improvement.
To Your Success,
Euan Swan
Fear & Anxiety
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by mytracktosuccess » Fri Jul 24, 2015 1:45 am
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by cynthialeighton » Wed Jun 29, 2016 5:31 pm
mytracktosuccess wrote:do not allow doubt to creep in and soon you will be doing things that you thought you would never be doing.
Bravo! Thanks for sharing your story. One of my favorite children's books is The Little Engine That Could. Remembering the little engine's "I think I can, I think I can" helps me. As does observing myself in the doing -- taking action.
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by nath1027 » Sat Sep 03, 2016 12:45 pm
You really need to meditate.
There are so many free meditations in YouTube the best of which is "guided mutation" there are many on stress and anxiety etc.
Go give it a try what do you have to lose? I know off the bat a lot of people will think meditation is ridiculous and coukdnt possibly help but believe me it does. I'm now 24 and in my past I have been homeless, I've been cast out by family for chunks of my teenage years and I was incredibly angry. I'm not posting this for sympathy at all I'm actually in an incredibly good position now because I got myself out of those negative situations and made my own positive situations and honestly meditation helped. It sort of slows your aggressive reactions down and makes you feel more positive than feel so anxious.
Go on YouTube or subsequently buy some on Amazon etc.
Anyway the point is go meditate. Go listen to positive motivational messages such as Les Brown, Eric Thomas, Jim Rohn etc the more you surround yourself with positivity its like the negative just drains out. I'm a strong believer in investing in myself with positivity, Ive done the famous 67 steps, meditation course and healing courses. You really will feel an incredible change and you can actually go get motivational messages for free on all sorts of internet sites. So go do it and feel the change
There are so many free meditations in YouTube the best of which is "guided mutation" there are many on stress and anxiety etc.
Go give it a try what do you have to lose? I know off the bat a lot of people will think meditation is ridiculous and coukdnt possibly help but believe me it does. I'm now 24 and in my past I have been homeless, I've been cast out by family for chunks of my teenage years and I was incredibly angry. I'm not posting this for sympathy at all I'm actually in an incredibly good position now because I got myself out of those negative situations and made my own positive situations and honestly meditation helped. It sort of slows your aggressive reactions down and makes you feel more positive than feel so anxious.
Go on YouTube or subsequently buy some on Amazon etc.
Anyway the point is go meditate. Go listen to positive motivational messages such as Les Brown, Eric Thomas, Jim Rohn etc the more you surround yourself with positivity its like the negative just drains out. I'm a strong believer in investing in myself with positivity, Ive done the famous 67 steps, meditation course and healing courses. You really will feel an incredible change and you can actually go get motivational messages for free on all sorts of internet sites. So go do it and feel the change
by Purple_Monkey » Sat Sep 03, 2016 6:50 pm
Thank you for such an encouraging story. I also had moments in my life when I had to fight myself, but than it worth it. For example, Phelps was bullied at school and his teacher told him that he wouldn't achieve nothing in this life. Thank's God that he didn't believe her.
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by handheart » Thu Sep 08, 2016 12:20 pm
Thanks for your story as its very smart and this its the solution with anxiety and also many specialist sayd to us that we must step outside of our confort zone and confront our fears to beat anxiety .Doing this we will get confidence in us and we will start to love our person and the anxiety will not find his place in us and then will leave
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by bestcatcher » Wed Oct 19, 2016 2:41 am
Hi mytracktosuccess,
Good day!
In the light of the topic about self-doubt and affirmation, I want to to give this thread some examples of affirmation that can help anyone that feels doubt, fear, and anxiety. These are 94 affirmations that you can use in your daily life . This self-affirmation is categorized into six parts namely - SELF,PARENTING,MONEY,HEALING,SELF-ESTEEM AND RELATIONSHIP.
Self
I choose to be happy, healthy and successful.
Opportunities always come my way. I seize them and accomplish my objectives
I always try to be myself. I am as good as I am.
I’m beautiful in and out. I’m attractive and sexy.
Men want to know me because I’m beautiful by appearance and soul.
I’m a gorgeous person. I’m a knockout. All eyes look at me when I walk.
I am a go-getter and a go-giver. The more I give, the more I get.
Financial success comes to me easily and effortlessly.
I love myself unconditionally. I am beautiful and so is the world.
Abundance is my true state of being. I accept it fully and joyously.
I am a capable person and a deserving human being.
I love myself for who I am. Wonderful things are happening in my life daily.
I set and achieve goals easily. I am an achiever.
I make my own choices and I create my own future.
I am assertive and in control of myself. I am impartial in my behavior.
I am a winner and I attract only success.
I have such a wonderful smile that everyone stares at me. I am very pretty and attractive.
I think positively, take responsibility for my actions and create my own future.
I am motivated, optimistic and solution oriented.
I am enthusiastic, energetic and strong. I am health conscious and look after myself properly.
Parenting
My child is the apple of my eye and we complement each other perfectly.
I inculcate discipline and virtues in my child in a loving way.
My major goal in life is to be the best parent that I can possibly be and all my activities are centered around this goal.
I hug my children daily and demonstrate my love in other ways as well.
I love and respect my child as much as I love and respect myself.
I always pay attention to what my child says and give an appropriate response.
I take care of all the needs of my child and see to it that s/he is always happy.
I try to see the world through the eyes of my child and participate in his sense of wonder and joy.
I understand that children constantly need motivation and I try to be their main source of motivation and inspiration.
I understand that my child is a separate individual and I give him/her enough space for his/her individuality.
I take an active interest in the studies of my child and help and guide him/her whenever possible.
I strive for the all-round development of my child and encourage any talent that s/he has.
Self-Esteem
I am a cultured and wise and yet, a humble person.
My high self-esteem enables me to respect others and beget respect in turn.
I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
I am a unique and a very special person and worthy of respect from others.
My high self-esteem allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
I love and accept myself unconditionally.
I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive and prosperous thoughts which ultimately are converted into my life experiences.
My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.
I radiate love and respect and in return I get love and respect.
I am a well-loved and well-respected person.
I deserve all that is good. I release any need for misery and suffering.
I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
I accept others as they are and they, in turn accept me as I am.
It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe.
All is well in my world and I trade love and acceptance with the world.
I have high self-esteem as I respect myself.
I am solution minded. Any problem that comes up in life is solvable.
I consciously release the past and live only in the present. That way I get to enjoy and experience life to the full.
Healing
I get good sleep every night and I get up fresh every morning.
My body metabolism is at its optimum and provides me with all the energy that I need.
I love exercising and I exercise every day.
Every day in every way I am getting healthier and healthier.
I eat healthy and I stay healthy.
Every day my eyesight is better than the previous day.
I am pain free in every respect and my body is full of energy.
I love myself in totality and I radiate energy.
I am grateful for my healthy body and I bless every part of my body.
Perfect health is my divine right and I claim it now.
Every cell in my body is healthy and radiates health.
Throughout the day I am full of energy.
I breathe deeply and every breath energizes me.
My immune system is very strong and can deal with any kind of bacteria, germs, and viruses.
Every organ in my body is healthy and functions at its optimum scale.
Money
I realize that money is essential for leading a good life but that I should not make it the number one priority of life.
Money and I are friends and our friendship will never fall apart.
I am a money magnet towards whom money is constantly attracted.
The Universe is the constant supplier of money for me and I always have enough money to fulfill my needs.
Every day I am attracting and saving more and more money.
Whatever activities I perform make money for me and I am always full of money.
Money Is Good.
I love money. Money flows easily into my life.
I attract money naturally. My middle name is money.
My bank balance is increasing everyday and I always have enough money for myself.
I am debt free as money is constantly flowing into my life.
My money consciousness is always increasing and keeping me surrounded by money.
Money is an integral part of my life and is never away from me.
Relationship
As a teacher, I give my best. My students understand my teaching and love me.
I love my son/daughter and get along fine with him/her.
I have nothing but love for my partner
I love my children unconditionally and accept them as they are.
My boss appreciates my work and helps me grow.
My employees are hardworking and honest and I appreciate and love them.
Though I am an independent individual, I love and respect my parents and know that they wish only the best for me.
My fiancé is simply out of this world and our love for each other knows no bounds.
I love everybody and in turn, everybody loves me.
My brother/sister and I are a perfect foil for each other. We love, respect and appreciate each other always.
My life partner/lover and I are soul mates. We complement each other, respect each other and love each other.
My husband/wife is ideal for me and we reciprocate each other in everything we do.
In my life, I attract only those people who are in sync with me and who love me unconditionally.
I am a model student. My teachers are the best. I love them and their teaching.
Fear is real and always be there. And doubt is a product of fear. We become afraid because we don't want to disappoint those people we care about. But you cannot live in fear. We can beat our fears and doubts in our hearts and minds by staying positive and living life each and every time with a smile.
Good day!
In the light of the topic about self-doubt and affirmation, I want to to give this thread some examples of affirmation that can help anyone that feels doubt, fear, and anxiety. These are 94 affirmations that you can use in your daily life . This self-affirmation is categorized into six parts namely - SELF,PARENTING,MONEY,HEALING,SELF-ESTEEM AND RELATIONSHIP.
Self
I choose to be happy, healthy and successful.
Opportunities always come my way. I seize them and accomplish my objectives
I always try to be myself. I am as good as I am.
I’m beautiful in and out. I’m attractive and sexy.
Men want to know me because I’m beautiful by appearance and soul.
I’m a gorgeous person. I’m a knockout. All eyes look at me when I walk.
I am a go-getter and a go-giver. The more I give, the more I get.
Financial success comes to me easily and effortlessly.
I love myself unconditionally. I am beautiful and so is the world.
Abundance is my true state of being. I accept it fully and joyously.
I am a capable person and a deserving human being.
I love myself for who I am. Wonderful things are happening in my life daily.
I set and achieve goals easily. I am an achiever.
I make my own choices and I create my own future.
I am assertive and in control of myself. I am impartial in my behavior.
I am a winner and I attract only success.
I have such a wonderful smile that everyone stares at me. I am very pretty and attractive.
I think positively, take responsibility for my actions and create my own future.
I am motivated, optimistic and solution oriented.
I am enthusiastic, energetic and strong. I am health conscious and look after myself properly.
Parenting
My child is the apple of my eye and we complement each other perfectly.
I inculcate discipline and virtues in my child in a loving way.
My major goal in life is to be the best parent that I can possibly be and all my activities are centered around this goal.
I hug my children daily and demonstrate my love in other ways as well.
I love and respect my child as much as I love and respect myself.
I always pay attention to what my child says and give an appropriate response.
I take care of all the needs of my child and see to it that s/he is always happy.
I try to see the world through the eyes of my child and participate in his sense of wonder and joy.
I understand that children constantly need motivation and I try to be their main source of motivation and inspiration.
I understand that my child is a separate individual and I give him/her enough space for his/her individuality.
I take an active interest in the studies of my child and help and guide him/her whenever possible.
I strive for the all-round development of my child and encourage any talent that s/he has.
Self-Esteem
I am a cultured and wise and yet, a humble person.
My high self-esteem enables me to respect others and beget respect in turn.
I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
I am a unique and a very special person and worthy of respect from others.
My high self-esteem allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
I love and accept myself unconditionally.
I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive and prosperous thoughts which ultimately are converted into my life experiences.
My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.
I radiate love and respect and in return I get love and respect.
I am a well-loved and well-respected person.
I deserve all that is good. I release any need for misery and suffering.
I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
I accept others as they are and they, in turn accept me as I am.
It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe.
All is well in my world and I trade love and acceptance with the world.
I have high self-esteem as I respect myself.
I am solution minded. Any problem that comes up in life is solvable.
I consciously release the past and live only in the present. That way I get to enjoy and experience life to the full.
Healing
I get good sleep every night and I get up fresh every morning.
My body metabolism is at its optimum and provides me with all the energy that I need.
I love exercising and I exercise every day.
Every day in every way I am getting healthier and healthier.
I eat healthy and I stay healthy.
Every day my eyesight is better than the previous day.
I am pain free in every respect and my body is full of energy.
I love myself in totality and I radiate energy.
I am grateful for my healthy body and I bless every part of my body.
Perfect health is my divine right and I claim it now.
Every cell in my body is healthy and radiates health.
Throughout the day I am full of energy.
I breathe deeply and every breath energizes me.
My immune system is very strong and can deal with any kind of bacteria, germs, and viruses.
Every organ in my body is healthy and functions at its optimum scale.
Money
I realize that money is essential for leading a good life but that I should not make it the number one priority of life.
Money and I are friends and our friendship will never fall apart.
I am a money magnet towards whom money is constantly attracted.
The Universe is the constant supplier of money for me and I always have enough money to fulfill my needs.
Every day I am attracting and saving more and more money.
Whatever activities I perform make money for me and I am always full of money.
Money Is Good.
I love money. Money flows easily into my life.
I attract money naturally. My middle name is money.
My bank balance is increasing everyday and I always have enough money for myself.
I am debt free as money is constantly flowing into my life.
My money consciousness is always increasing and keeping me surrounded by money.
Money is an integral part of my life and is never away from me.
Relationship
As a teacher, I give my best. My students understand my teaching and love me.
I love my son/daughter and get along fine with him/her.
I have nothing but love for my partner
I love my children unconditionally and accept them as they are.
My boss appreciates my work and helps me grow.
My employees are hardworking and honest and I appreciate and love them.
Though I am an independent individual, I love and respect my parents and know that they wish only the best for me.
My fiancé is simply out of this world and our love for each other knows no bounds.
I love everybody and in turn, everybody loves me.
My brother/sister and I are a perfect foil for each other. We love, respect and appreciate each other always.
My life partner/lover and I are soul mates. We complement each other, respect each other and love each other.
My husband/wife is ideal for me and we reciprocate each other in everything we do.
In my life, I attract only those people who are in sync with me and who love me unconditionally.
I am a model student. My teachers are the best. I love them and their teaching.
Fear is real and always be there. And doubt is a product of fear. We become afraid because we don't want to disappoint those people we care about. But you cannot live in fear. We can beat our fears and doubts in our hearts and minds by staying positive and living life each and every time with a smile.
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