Zuriel wrote:Dav...one thing is for sure, genuine emotional intelligence does not come from one book...or even several books...I feel it comes from being exposed to many situations where judgement becomes the norm...only emotional intelligence resists the norm...emotional intelligence accepts what is and adapts. I have read many self-help books, participated in many philisophical discussions, taken classes, attended seminars, watched programs and explored religion...I still feel I am emotionally deficient. I do however feel i am more aware of the world around me than most people I interact with daily...but this is not a judgement about them...simply an observation about me...emotional intelligence is equal to self awareness...
Smell what I'm steppin in?
Yeah, I think I agree, especially with the emotional awareness=self awareness. Emotional intelligence is one of the coolest topics I've learned so far, in terms of psychology type stuff. I really don't like psychology, but EI seems like a a way to manage oneself's feelings; it doesn't require extra "thinking" nor does it try to avoid pain. And I don't totally agree with Daniel Goleman so far, he seems to have more faith than me in standard psychology, and didn't give a very good explanation on how to manage anxiety in the last chapter I read. But generally I really like his ideas.
I am more into Susan Jeffers way of managing emotions.
But for sure, I'm much more into my own way of seeing EI, and how I can work it into what I do. I'm not sure if anyone I've read so far really puts it into the words that I would use. Except for fellow poster thefool, who seems to see more eye to eye with me on this.