huge rage issues (partner)

Leo me it sounds you are kind of a nutcase yourself, especially in the area of understanding that every human being is an individual and not all 'men' and 'woman' can be seen as the same. Not all stories are the same.
Real and honest insight, openness, compassion and love are key in life, not generalization.
We differ in that 100% it seems.

You wrote:

But about her being "in Love" and wanting it to work out.... well, I don't want to be the one to break it to you, but there are two things you should know -- Santa Claus and Love are not real.

That is pretty sad in my eyes.
I do believe in love, and recognizing it and understanding it enriches my life. Its not about 'being in love', but about love.

LOVE... what everyone knows about romantic love... well that is SEXUAL BONDING. It is Animal Hormones kicking in.

Maybe in your life, which is probably why you fail to understand the deeper part of it. That is missing out.

My guess is that she would not BE in your situation. The Moment she saw that her boyfriend had only be 'keeping it together' long enough to get her into bed, but soon after had a complete melt down -- a Package of Damaged Goods that He MUST have known he was already dealing with when he met you.

We actually know each other for years already and have had mostly 90% good times, with fun, humor, traveling, good things and lots of happy moments. We still have that.
Also, when we met we had many open talks and he told me everything about himself, as I did about myself as well.
You generalize things, and are using your imagination to create a story here, that is not my story. You make suggestions 'constantly', that have nothing to do with my life.

Oh, and who is that with the Other Advice... what was it exactly.... let me remember... "And if your boyfriend picks up a hatchet and is about to bludgeon you to death with it, well, you tell him in a firm voice that you find that simply unacceptable, and if you do not lose too much blood first, you will absolutely insist upon leaving the room".

Such imagination....
Again, .. maybe too much horror movies?
Sorry but for me it has no point to reply to comments like these any longer. It has nothing to do with the reality. And it has nothing to do with me. There is no intelligence or anything constructive in there.

Betawarrior,
Thank you for your helpful insights, it helped me.
I agree with you.

Since you tell us that he starts counting down every problem he has when you get a bit teary, my thoughts is that he is a closed person who really needs to talk to a therapist because he needs to vent, he needs to out those troubles.

It is his way of telling you - I have lots of problems too, please help.

JuliaMaple wrote:Leo me it sounds you are kind of a nutcase yourself, especially in the area of understanding that every human being is an individual and not all 'men' and 'woman' can be seen as the same. Not all stories are the same.
Real and honest insight, openness, compassion and love are key in life, not generalization.
We differ in that 100% it seems.

Hi Julia,

Okay, I am willing to concede your point, that we are BOTH Nutcases. Was that the point you were making? Okay, I will take care of Me, but you need to take care of you.

Also, you should be aware about the Usefulness of Generalizing. It is ONLY by Generalizing that we can Ever Use our Intellects to make any complex Social, Moral or even Business Decision. what Generalization Does is it allows you to examine a Great Many Particular Cases, grouped by Subject. One looks for Patterns. One looks for Cause and Effect Relationships. Its a bit more of an Art than a Science. and it takes years of practice. One looks at Developing Situations and then Makes a Guess using Generalization of Past Experiences. then one waits. How did it work out. Was one Right or Wrong. and there IS no other way. what you suggest is that a Person KNOW EVERYTHING before making any decision. Well only God knows EVERYTHING, and He ain't saying.

Now I like the way you are sticking to your guns, BUT... it occurred to me that None Of It Matters.

WHAT are YOU here for?

Your Boyfriend is the One with the Problem. You don't have an Anger Problem. You got a bit testy with me, but not excessively. You are frustrated because nobody will listen to you regarding how such an obviously damaged person as you describe your boyfriend can in fact be at the same time the most stable and congenial of people. Maybe you ARE right... that your boyfriend had previously been Perfect, but that would lead me to suspect an Organic Cause for his present catalog of dysfunctions... a Brain Tumor or something like that.

But, again, What do you expect us to be able to do for you?

Get your boyfriend to write in. I will be glad to take my best shot at helping him. If he really is such a great guy, then I am sure that I will certainly be able to make a very positive contribution ... and in helping him, that will be the only way I see it that I can help you.... as long as you insist upon 'Standing By' ... Your Man....

Yes, you HAVE TO leave.
Look what I just found:

go to wordpress and try to find a blog called "crazydevilblog".

Wanna end like this?
These guys get worse and worse...