Whats your opinion on sexting?

Define going out with? Is this an online relationship? Or are you guys going out to eat, watch movies, etc. and during times when you're apart there is sexting?

She doesn't sound like the girl for our laureat, who's thoughtful, sensitive -- and so recently out of a long-term relationship.

Ok We was out like drinks, dinner, walks,
had moments of cuddling and she starter sexting me and i was thinking like she just wants sex? and asked her about it And we had sex But that didnt stop sexting, i am guessing there is some kind of obssession disorder here going on because we sexting like 3h every night

I think she has figure out that i am not really comfortable about that as she didnt sext me last two days i mean Candid made a good point here as i am not really that kind of guy who keep sexting and masturbating its just not me

overall i really like this girl she has lots of energy , She loves to go out, she works alot, she is so family focused, job focused overall she makes me happy about, but the sexting

laureat wrote:... because we sexting like 3h every night...

Why would you sext 3h if you don't like or have no interest in that? Sexting 3h requires you participate in the activity, that you are responding. She probably thinks you enjoy it and why would she not think so if you were willing to participate for that long multiple nights?

I suggest you just be upfront and tell her you are not into sexting.

That is the basic problem
because i have to participate otherwise i would not bother about she making herself happy
the problem is that if thats what she likes, if thats what makes her feel good , feel special. Sending me pics and telling her she looks hot and so, to make her happy
As what we are discussing the sexting

laureat wrote: i have to participate... if thats what she likes, if thats what makes her feel good , feel special. Sending me pics and telling her she looks hot and so, to make her happy

True.

If someone wants you to give them a golden shower (piss on them), if that is what makes them feel good, special, etc. then for that particular relationship if you want to make them happy, then you have to do what you have to do, right? Or maybe it is an issue of being incompatible.

While an extreme example, the same rules apply to sexting. You have two options to meet a persons needs:

-1- Try to figure out why they like golden showers/sexting and try to persuade them to eliminate that particular fetish/need from their life as to accommodate your needs or;

-2- Accept the incompatibility in the relationship and move on. Maybe a different person will be a better fit for them as well as you.

Not really a fan of it because it can get you in a lot of trouble and possibly ruin your career depending on what you do for a living. I implore you to share your thoughts with her about how you feel

My view is that it is ok under certain circumstances and can be fun if both are into it. However, I had to tell my partner to stop because it was getting out of hand too, he would message me while I was at work and stuff. Now we have strict rules about it. It's ok within certain times, and only on particular apps. This works, we get to do it now and then but it doesn't get too much. And also if he instigates a sext convo and I say 'not now' or anything, he knows not to take it personally but it's just not the right time.