I find that due to my non-existent self-esteem I'm never truly myself with anyone. I put on Oscar-worthy performances for everyone I ever interact with - including doctors and therapists, which impedes my treatment. I assess what I think a person expects from me and give them exactly that:
With work friends I'm jolly and nonchalant
With my mother it's too complex to describe but I can never bring myself to actually share anything important. I'm helpful much of the time.
With my lovely doctor (who feels oddly like my best friend) and is doing her best to treat my anxiety through all sorts of creative methods, I can never tell her the true cause of my anxiety because it'll ruin the quietly confident character I've built up with her.
With my sister I'm matter-of-fact and quiet
With the very rare men I'm attracted to I become a clever smiley charm machine. That one's particularly exhausting to keep up - I can only do it in short bursts.
With my former best friend from high school it's the worst - I revert to my high school persona
Worst of all is that my first encounter with said person 'locks' whatever character I create in permanently. I walk away from every interaction feeling like a fraud and I've gotten to the point where I don't even know who I am anymore. I feel like I don't exist. I'm currently looking for a therapist/ psychologist and I'm afraid I'll do the same with her and as a result won't get anywhere with my self-esteem.
How do I break out of this acting cycle? It is soul crushing.