Anger management help

**Posts:** 19 · by **disarmfromwithin** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 11:40 am

I run an anger managment company (not sure i should post the name of it here without asking an administrator) and am always saddened by the turmoil that some of the people posting here are going through. up until three years ago i was one of the angriest men on the planet, i often used to stare at people for a reaction. I would shout and scream at my wife, children or anyone else that got in the way of getting my needs met. i am amazed that my family stuck with me through years of torment.

However three years ago this all changed, i attended an anger managment course, i did'nt want to go it's just that everyone around me said i needed it (not the right reason for attending i know). i have to say three years on and my life has totally changed, sure i still get angry occasionally but i am able to manage it now. i read that a couple of people have attended courses run by local authorities and they were not effective. This reall saddens me, i often get people contact me or are referred who say that they have attended a programme and they now feel much worse than when they started. You simply cannot read a book on anger managment and then run a course. I would just like to say that if you find the right programme it can have such a positive effect on your life and i am living proof. i was so impressed with the changes in my life that i took a diploma course in AM.

I am more than happy to post some basic tools to help people get started on a journey of personal development if anyone thinks that would help. i must say though that anger is addictive so recovery comes from going through a process.

By the way people like me cannot cure anger we just help people to see it as a positive emotion rather than a negative one, depending on how you use it.

**Posts:** 2522 · by **kfedouloff** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 2:03 pm

Hi disarmfromwithin

Welcome to the forum - I love your user name!

It would be great if you would post some tools and join the discussions. We are always looking for more input from people working in the field.

As to mentioning your company, while we do not allow people to promote their business directly in their posts, we do allow them to include some promotional info in their signature, including their website (if they have one).

I agree that what matters about anger is how you use it. Being angry is easy. The challenge is to be angry at the right time, with the right person, to the right degree. Can't remember who said that... some Greek chap?

Kathleen

**Posts:** 19 · by **disarmfromwithin** » Wed Jun 29, 2005 4:40 pm

Yes i remember that greek chap he was in my year at school arris totle was his name.

The first thing i always ask my clients to do is to keep an anger diary, i am more than happy to e-mail a copy of diary to anyone who wants one, just message me or e-mail me. A diary basically deconstructs each angry incident, this in turn will help people to learn exactly what their triggers are. angers triggers will always remain triggers but once you are aware of what they are it becomes easier to put strategies in place to enable people to look at the from an objective point of view.

As i said before this is part of a process but anger diaries are a really good place to start to look at how anger has been built up in your life and for some people how it remains to have the biggest single negative impact on it

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