I'm coming out of a few years of depression, I have a goal for my life and the drive to accomplish it.
I feel I'm finally ready to try and have a real couple-realtionship with someone else, but I keep failing from getting a head with the women I try to engage this type of realtionship with.
The situation right now as I can see it -
I'm fairly smart guy - I read, learn all the time and have fun engaging in challenging conversations and I have lots of ambition for my future.
I'm good looking - I exercise 4 times a week and my body is quite lean and muscular now.
I'm doing o.k with friendships and popularity - I have lots of friendly realtionships and I can sense people respect me for who I am and what I can do.
I have good friend-realtionships with women - I have 3 close female friends and some other female-acquaintances which I'm honestly convinced are into me but aren't my type really so I keep things polite and respectful with them.
The problem -
Whenever I try to start something serious with a woman I'm interested in, things don't go my way:
I tried direct approaches - going up to a woman and asking her out - didn't work.
I tried creating some casual realtionship first - went out several times with friends and just the two of us - then telling her I'm interested - didn't work.
I tried just telling the woman the truth about how I'm not very sure about how to handle this because of my lack of exprience - jesus that one really didn't work now that I recall it.
The causes as I see it -
I never been in a realtionship of the type I'm looking for and at my age it might be a little weird so as I try to engage in those I'm probably doing something wrong that puts them off.
I might be too passive because I'm not sure how to begin to approach.
maybe some of them feel intimated by me?
I spoke with one of my closest female friends she said I'm incredibly direct and often hide too much of what makes me "great" and that I need to give it more time.
However I do feel like I might be doing something wrong so I'm looking for fresh perspectives and enlightening "open your eyes dude" tips.
So can you help me by giving me even the tiniest bit of new perspective / insight to my situation?
Thanks a lot for reading,
Someone who can totally be your friend