Fade_Black wrote:Any other suggestion or discussion?
Say you have the goal to run a marathon. It is a straight forward goal that most people can understand how to achieve.
You don’t start by trying to run all 26 miles. Instead, you start small, sometimes very small. You start by establishing how far you can run without stopping. Maybe it is only 400 meters.
Once you know the starting point, you slowly build. Over time you progress to 600, then 800, then 1600 meters. Eventually you are up to a 5k.
The idea of low confidence is relative. At 5k if you think about the 26 mile marathon you may experience a blow to the ego, but if asked if you could run 1k, your confidence is through the roof! Heck yea, 1k is nothing. Really? Nothing. Do you remember when you could barely run 400 meters?
The above is all about mindset and where we choose to focus. If you are constantly comparing your performance to others, if you are constantly focused on the fact you can’t yet run 26 miles, without appreciating the fact that you can run 5k, then the biggest obstacle in your life is your mindset. It is the constant negative way in which you look at what you want to accomplish verses what you have accomplished.
With relationships it is more complex. It is not as clear as running a marathon. But, the underlying principles still apply.
You start with the basics and build up to more complex abilities. You start by putting yourself in situations with the opposite sex. You join a hiking club, or take a cooking class. You make acquaintances. From there you make friends. From friends you develop potential dates, etc.
Instead of 400, 600, 800, 5k....26 miles, it becomes...
Acquaintance -> friend -> date -> girlfriend -> commitment -> marriage -> denial -> bargaining -> acceptance -> submission -> happiness
