Does everyone or any one else tend to get angry with you when you express your opinion? Or does it just happen with this friend?
lot of people get angry. It might be the reason why in school I had few friends only. And maybe people were giving wrong advice , like be confident, you are too serious about things. With you are too serious maybe ok.
But I was fighting with my unconfidence maybe in a wrong way. I thouth if I want to be respected and cool, I want to express my point of view even if others do not agree on it and do not like it. But with many people I feared that they will get angry, and so people saw me a unconfident. Its hard at school cause according to a book, I had to understand from their point of view why are they such bastards, being angry, liking to do criminal activity. And I do not even want such friends because they push me into their activity also, but I need to still somehow have no enemies, its very hard.
Do you give your views aggressively or keep repeating a point over again?
Do you make big things out of little things?
It might be that I give my views agressively. Also repeaded a point again. For example in the job which I was recently fired (created another topic if interested) I remember I repeaded a point even to shareholder what is more productive in my opinion (actually not only my, but many people agree to me). Maybe even feeling managers wrong is one of causes they fired me.
People say that I make big things out of little things, so if you believe them its ok. I am a logic person, programmer and I like details, and I hate when people say wrongly even small thing. I want to show them they are wrong. Just now after the book reading I am trying to keep calm and stop.
it can be a waste of time trying to have any discussion with them as they are usually very set in their ways, have set ideas and just get annoyed when you express something that does not fit in with their vision.
yea, sometimes it can. But often from the things I disagree, I find lot of things which I agree on. So I filter and take those what I think makes sense. So I still have to talk to those people.
One more hard to deal thing is that they are even angry that I do not belive them blindly just because they are better in that area. Better with girls, better in carreer. So they tell me just believe. Because I am at my state because I have wrong beliefs. Imagine you have to believe 2+2 = 5 just because mathematician said so. I guess you would think, this mathematician is not good in every situation at least.
Usually, if you stand up to a friend who is like this, they will cool off the friendship, because it no longer suit them - they don't want to hang around with someone who makes them question themselves as they can't cope with any perceived criticism (look up narcissistic personality traits). If your friend is like this, they are unlikely to change and the friendship will carry on this way, unless you choose to break it off or regularly disagree with them, (so they end it anyway).
I really wish they do not end the relationship, I am even surprised that those go so long, with one it is 6 years, with another maybe 5 years. At least until I do not find better friends to fill their position (good carreer advisor, good relationships, psychology advisor).
Btw lot of people get angry, but not all of them. Few people are who do not get angry at me almost ever. Even I had such girlfriend who I was not afraid to tell smth what I think. I have skype friend for maybe 6 years who also we do not get in angry situations. I have another friend which I meet in real life and she rarely gets angry. Just few time she says something which is bad about me but its easier to accept, because I agree what she says but from my point of view its not bad.