Defamation

Yesterday I had a walk in the city centre and it was very crowded. I walked for hours and I saw thousands of people and I didn't know anyone of them and I thought "all these people have never heard about that rumour, so the percentage of people who knows it is very small, compared to the whole city". So I started feeling better.

You know what? I've lived 7 years peacefully without caring about this story, if now I'm thinking about it again is because a very nice friendship was going to start between me and a woman I've recently met. We have the same interests, the same way of seeing many things, etc. After we discovered that we both know a dude (one of those who spread the rumour in the past), she doesn't answer my messages anymore and the only time I was able to see her in the place where we met, she turned to the other side as soon as she saw me. This makes me feel very sad and disappointed because I thought that I've already left that story in the past, but it seems that it's haunting me! I can't even say to some people that we have some acquaintance in common that's why at first I was saying all those things like "all the city knows that story" or "it will go on forever" because after so many years people still talk about it when they talk about me

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:I think it reasonable to assume that this is not the first time for you to grossly exaggerate whatever is taking place. People pick up on that and it quickly becomes tiring. Then people begin using it against you, teasing you, and taking opportunities to give you a difficult time.

Why would they do that!?

quietvoice wrote:`
Why not change your attitude about it to something like, "Who cares?"

I don't think anyone really cares. People are generally into themselves. Men, in general, think farting is funny, and women, not so much. Let them laugh. Join with them in the laughter. Make friends over it, if the opportunity arises.

Turn this around in your head, and things will turn around in your outer world.

Thank you for your message. I've lived for 7 years without caring about this story, but now I'm worried again for the reason I explained before (about the new friendship).

And unfortunately people don't laugh about it! Probably they laugh behind my back, but they don't laugh at all when I'm present

peaceful_soul wrote:Why would they do that!?

Because people don't like people that cry wolf. That is why.

I really hope you are doing better. best of luck for your future