My self-esteem has never been lower!!!

Sneezy wrote: Do I have to be not-myself to get what I need?

Is your current self happy? Doesn't sound like it. Given you are unhappy, what do you fear, what do you have to lose about being "not-myself" when you just posted about how your current self has low self-esteem that has never been lower?

I do think you need to be not-yourself any longer, but I don't recommend modeling your future self on the attention whores on instagram. Instead, I think you need to just go ahead and delete that instagram account and then start searching for some healthy role models in your life. Look towards strong women that don't seek social acceptance.

Given your unhappy self craves social approval, it might be hard to find role models you can aspire to emulate. Don't pick role models that are in the media spotlight. Instead, pick some women you can admire that do not seek fame. Read their books, learn from them and then create your new, not-yourself path.

it is absolute normal to want to be special
people keep making tattoos and all that, because we want to be special, we are driven to do unconsciously

it is not that you are not special already as you are
it is just because you are driven to do something and become the best you can be

try to think this on a positive way
if everyone would be comfortable as they are, there would be extreme less activity in the world, and I don't know how cool is that

however sometimes this may go too far, we may have lots of anxiety and something we cannot handle, so its good to think intellectually of all that, and make sure about expectations we have from oneself, and learn to be more comfortable, learn to enjoy the moment more

Sneezy wrote:I am starved for attention

I encourage you to find a way to volunteer that involves interacting with people.

Dear Sneezy

To get to the point where you are self confident person first you have achieve a different perspective. A perspective, where you are focused on yourself, where you love yourself and you know that you can count on yourself.
It's a important step for you to become a truly blessed with true power of a real self confidence.

And I want you imagine saying that to your inner self, where you can be 100% honest with yourself :

" I am the person I can trust. I am the person I can be truly honest with.I am the person I can believe in I am the person I will always fight for. I will always protect myself. I am love for me. "

Memorise it, close your eyes and say it again in your mind.
Now I need you to recall a moment when you felt very confident about yourself. Keep that moment in mind for few moments for me please. Now sentence above twice again.

Do that every day in a morning and every time you feel lack of confidence.
4 repeats once in a morning
Every time you feel stressed, perhaps before exams, performances of some kind or just because you feel tired and you need more energy.

And the most important: Remember to do this in quiet environment, your office, in quiet natural place or any other place no one will interrupt you.

And please, do let me know how you are feeling about yourself after, let's say a week after. I love helping people and I always like to know if they need more help.

And remember, be strong, be fast but never in hurry. That sentence changed a lot of stressful people who I met in my life.

Hey Sneezy,

I get that it might be hard to feel adequate or good when you look at all these pictures, and profiles and the attention they are getting.

But you, and many others, and I myself occasionaly as well; make one huge mistake while doing this.
We compare our inner-selfs to the highly curated outer displays of others!
Well you can imagine this is not a fair comparison!

That is one thing to keep in mind.

The second thing is, you don't have to look at instagram/facebook or other websites. If it makes you feel bad, stop doing it!

And third, despite being a unique person, you and everybody else is not 'special'. The people you envy, you and me, we are actually all pretty much alike. It is part of growing up to acknowledge this.

Though you might be special to people who matter, the people who care about you. Why not focus on those real life relationships in stead of vying for attention of the anonymous crowd!

You must dezvolt as a person yourself ,read personla development books read motivational etc and gain self confidence in you .After you do that you dont need others atention because you will love your person .And then others will come at you