Feeling insecure and bad at new job

**Posts:** 18 · by **CrystalMinds** » Fri Jul 21, 2017 12:57 pm

Hello everybody!

A little backstory:
I have a new job since September 2016, it's a job I (thought) wanted for years. I had to go through a year of hard training and had some trouble finding a good place near home. So since September 2016 I work closer to where I live now. Also, since that moment, I moved away from my hometown I grew up in and had to leave all my friends and family behind so my boyfriend (and I) could live closer to our jobs.
Shortcut: I don't like the town we live in and I miss my family. Nothing that can't be solved. After a lot of talking with my boyfriend, we agreed to find a place closer to my hometown.

Now, since a few weeks I've noticed I'm not feeling good in my job anymore. It's usually when I have to work with a certain coworker, he gives me the feeling I'm not good at my job. I had to work with him for a few shifts and that thought is getting to me. So I'm not happy at my job anymore. I feel like I'm forgetting a lot of things I used to know (in my job), I feel like I'm not taking enough initiative, that I let my coworker do the most things, that I'm not funny and witty anymore, ...
I want to feel good at my job again. I wanna be myself around coworkers and not dreading going to work everyday.

I just wanna feel like my old confident self again at work and believe that I'm doing a good job.
I hope someone can give me some advice. Thanks for reading!

**Posts:** 1 · by **growingthrulife** » Fri Aug 04, 2017 4:57 am

Hey crystalminds - you're your hardest critic. I bet you're great at your job but are so occupied with what you're not doing, that you're missing everything you're actually doing.

I would suggest you do some further thinking and observations on why this particular colleague of yours makes you feel this way. How does he make you feel this way? What does he say or do that makes you doubt your abilities? Does he do this with other colleagues or just you? What does he have to gain from behaving this way towards you?

Once you can get to the bottom of this, hopefully the answers become a little clearer to you.

**Posts:** 31 · by **lol4er** » Tue Jan 29, 2019 2:05 pm

People are often afraid of new tings. The work is one of the improtnat things.so it is normal

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Wed Jan 30, 2019 7:37 am

CrystalMinds wrote:It's usually when I have to work with a certain coworker, he gives me the feeling I'm not good at my job. I had to work with him for a few shifts and that thought is getting to me. So I'm not happy at my job anymore.

I know this kind of co-worker. He's ready to swoop on any tiny mistake in your work, never says you did anything right. He's out to undermine you.

They're everywhere in the workplace, these kind of people. They get off on making others feel insecure, and if they succeed, they start forging ahead.

You need to remember you loved this job, you trained for it, it's what you wanted. Remind yourself you're still good at it, you know what you're doing and you do it well. And this is probably not your style, but let him know you've noticed when he makes mistakes. Fight back!

Don't kowtow. Don't apologise. Don't let this bully wreck your career.

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