I am a student, I am 19 years old and currently I am a 3rd year student at a University in another city.
In General, I have never had many friends. At school, during school hours, I communicated with all my classmates, laughed and was perceived by everyone as a sympathetic, intelligent and adequate person. However, outside of school, everything stopped and I didn't get close to anyone.
At the moment, I have two people who I consider my friends. However, they get a job/girlfriend and the routine engulfs them. In messengers, for example, they rarely write to me, and I also don't want to write, because I can't feel the difference between initiative and obsession.
Perhaps I am a loner by nature, but my depression and depressed mood are aggravated by the constant claims(like jokes) from my parents like "You have become a social phobe", "When will you find a girl?"or "In your age I was very active and why are you so shy?". Moreover, I was active as a child, but as I got older everything changed.
What can you recommend after reading my story? And what is the difference in friendship between initiative and obsession?