What do our feelings toward each others seem to be?

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It was simply a fun and flirty experience. You're beginning to learn the field of interpersonal relationships one small step at a time. File the experience, and move on. If you think about it too much, you will become attached to pure fantasy which will hinder your knowing of reality in the here and now.

You do come across as needy and/or obsessive.

By default, that you post the conversation for analysis shows a degree of neediness. Most people, after one kiss, hanging out, and some text messages, would accept the guy wasn’t equally interested and just move on. They wouldn’t need a text conversation analyzed. That is obsessing.

The question, why do you think you come across as needy/obsessive? Is it just inexperience in dating? Is it being overexcited about the potential? Is it youthful lust (hormonal)? Or is it low self-esteem and fear of rejection?

I’m not saying there is a clear answer, but it is probably worth taking some time to reflect and figure out how to adjust in the future.

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:You do come across as needy and/or obsessive.

By default, that you post the conversation for analysis shows a degree of neediness. Most people, after one kiss, hanging out, and some text messages, would accept the guy wasn’t equally interested and just move on. They wouldn’t need a text conversation analyzed. That is obsessing.

The question, why do you think you come across as needy/obsessive? Is it just inexperience in dating? Is it being overexcited about the potential? Is it youthful lust (hormonal)? Or is it low self-esteem and fear of rejection?

I’m not saying there is a clear answer, but it is probably worth taking some time to reflect and figure out how to adjust in the future.

I am only 19. He is 23. Tbh I have been on many dates. Too many to count with too many guys. Never been in a relationship however. I don't know, i guess i just liked this guy and created a fantasy in my head. I wasn't going to reply to his last text "Alright??" But then I put myself in his position and if I were a shy guy, it would be a confidence boost and it would be nice to have a better clarification. So thats why i replied. Im not expecting any reply back from him now. I will just move on but it was nice meeting him.

riddigit wrote:I am only 19...Tbh I have been on many dates. Too many to count with too many guys. Never been in a relationship however.

Why never a relationship?

Think of the question this way...if you had a friend, regardless of age, and they said that they have been on so many dates, "too many to count", but it had never resulted in a relationship, a reasonable question would be to consider, "Why not?"

It's obvious this friend wanted a relationship, otherwise there is no reason to mention that none of them had progressed into a relationship. The friend wanted a relationship, but it hadn't happened. Why?

Like my previous post, it is worth reflection and there is no simple answer.

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:

riddigit wrote:I am only 19...Tbh I have been on many dates. Too many to count with too many guys. Never been in a relationship however.

Why never a relationship?

Think of the question this way...if you had a friend, regardless of age, and they said that they have been on so many dates, "too many to count", but it had never resulted in a relationship, a reasonable question would be to consider, "Why not?"

It's obvious this friend wanted a relationship, otherwise there is no reason to mention that none of them had progressed into a relationship. The friend wanted a relationship, but it hadn't happened. Why?

Like my previous post, it is worth reflection and there is no simple answer.

Never a relationship because I still haven't met the right guy.
Once I did actually, but that was 2 years ago and my insecurities came in the way.

Most relationships exploit each other to get what they want from the other person. Usually that means approval from the other person. If they don't get it, they either exploit further, run away, or wake up and stop accept their own truth of exploitation.

This last option requires truth, which exploiters don't want to know about; or their exploitive nature will come to a halt and they won't know how to cope with out it. Anger usually follows, blaming the other for not understanding them (that is, their need to be exploitive).

As you can see, most relations avoid the truth about themselves. No wonder most relationships are dysfunctional, even for those who have been together for a long time - they still exploit each other.

It's all fear of not getting what they want to feel better than they are feeling at the time. This world is full of fear-based individuals.

Truthful relationships, based on being true, are true relationships. They relate honestly with each other. They are genuine, authentic, reliable, unconditional, faithful and loving. Their love for each other is based on each others truthfulness.

Your answers are found in your own truth, not just in yourself, but in other people too.