by Opinion » Sun Mar 01, 2020 7:16 pm
@Allisonmarie75 - I am so incredibly sorry to hear what you have been going through since having your hysterectomy. Sadly, I can relate to many of the issues that you have listed. I also am struggling with emotional emptiness and connection with others. It's horrible to feel that you are now a stranger, to yourself, and to your friends and loved ones. From the time line you have given since your surgery, you are now 5 years post op and it has been long enough for you to have experienced the horrific physical effects of this surgery, (Figure changes from the rib cage dropping, etc). I think that you are in need of counselling, and the HERS foundation is your best bet for what you are going through. I recently started taking a product called Coenzyme Q10 by Webber Naturals. This has really helped with restoring some of my energy, and my legs no longer feel like they have heavy weights tied to them. I think you should start taking this product as soon as you can. If you have more energy, it will also help to bring up your mood. Also, vitamin D3 is very important as well. I think you would benefit from contacting Nora Coffey at the HERS foundation, she provides counselling for women who are struggling with the after affects of hysterectomy. It has also helped me to order some books, that have been able to give me some valuable information on how hormone levels are affected by hysterectomy, and what our different female sex organs do, and how they work. I would highly recommend purchasing "Hysterectomy & Ovary Removal" by Elizabeth Plourde. You can find this book on amazon. I also would recommend "The H Word" by Nora W. Coffey. Both of these books have been a great deal of help to me, and they will not only help to educate you on why you are feeling the way you are, but it will also help you to feel like you are not alone in this either. I think that is emotionally very important. In regards to the problems you are having with sexual intimacy, I can also relate to this. There is NO way that a woman can be the same sexually when her sex organs have been removed. Our sex organs is what gives us our sex drive, and we need to be intact (having all our sex organs) in order to function normally. Our ovaries, cervix, uterus, and fallopian tubes all work together as a communication system, when any of these organs are removed, it compromises proper function of the remaining sex organs that are left. I also have my ovaries, but they are not functioning properly because my Uterus and Cervix are gone. I was wanting to PM you, but was unable to. I contacted the site to see if they could fix this issue, and was told that they would try to fix this for me soon. I hope that I was able to help you. I wish there was more that I could suggest, hopefully I will be able to PM you, once this technical issue on the site is fixed. God bless you Allisonmarie75, and hang in there. As much as you feel that you are disconnected from your husband and your children, they still really need you and love you, and they would be devastated if anything happened to you. Please stay strong!