Feeling very alone

zero145 wrote:I love talking about philosophy, forensic psychology, flaws in the U.S.'s education system, etc.

Why do your friends need to talk philosophy, politics, etc? You have no other interests? You don’t play any sports or exercise, don’t belong to any clubs, don’t volunteer, don’t have any hobbies?

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:

zero145 wrote:I love talking about philosophy, forensic psychology, flaws in the U.S.'s education system, etc.

Why do your friends need to talk philosophy, politics, etc? You have no other interests? You don’t play any sports or exercise, don’t belong to any clubs, don’t volunteer, don’t have any hobbies?

I should have specified this a bit more, sorry.

I don't want or expect the people around me to talk endlessly about those things with me. However, all of my peers except for the one person I mentioned have laughed at/made fun of me for my interests. I am an archer and I volunteer at my local VA and occasionally at a hospital, but nobody ever really acts interested in those things.

zero145 wrote: However, all of my peers except for the one person I mentioned have laughed at/made fun of me for my interests. I am an archer and I volunteer at my local VA and occasionally at a hospital, but nobody ever really acts interested in those things.

So other archers make fun of you for your interest in archery? Other volunteers make fun of you for volunteering? Obviously not. The point being, you are considering your “peers” to classmates and that these classmates are your target “friend” while the people that share your interests, e.g. archery or volunteering are somehow not friend material.

If you belonged to a chess club, there might be people your age also participating. There would most likely be older people as well. They would not make fun of you for playing chess and they would want to discuss chess, but they may not care about your views on the education system. You would have plenty of friends, that share your interest in chess.

It is like you are trying to force a round peg into a square hole.

It is not age, it is your philosophy. Some adults are into sports and race cars. Other adults like going to broadway shows and are foodies. They make friends in areas where they have shared interests. At work, they might not have a colleague that shares in their interests, and that’s okay. They are there for work. They are not there to meet someone that likes broadway shows.

School is the same as work. You end up spending lots of time with people that don’t share an interest in your interests, they don’t enjoy archery. I guarantee some of them do volunteer work. You are not the only student volunteer. Anyway, the opportunity for friendship is all around you. It isn’t necessarily with classmates.

Hey zero145. High school is just like that in my opinion. College is almost always not as filled with narrow minded people. Especially universities. Take the classes your interested in. Join clubs your interested in and I am sure you'll meet some cool like minded people like you. Just be patient. It is a virtue...

As I see it, all you really need to do is be a bit more open minded, and develop a bit more technique for interacting with people. These things can be difficult to acquire without guidance, but I hope I can at least relate a bit to help you with.

As for specific advice on how to proceed, I see your relationship with your peers as being the most pressing concern. In particular, the scornful way with which you have been treated. It sounds as if those have been some very hurtful episodes for you, and if you managed to overcome them now, you would find a great burden lifted from your mind. The scorn of a highschooler can be painful, but it is highly superficial and ought to be surmountable with an open mind and a little bit of technique.

Can you provide more detail on the difficulties you have relating to your peers?

I am sure that you have something that interest you the most. You can start by confirming it to yourself to what you really want to do and then go on with doing it. Motivate your self to do it. I know this is just a cliche to you but don't let your loneliness beat you down. There are lots of things out there that literally will keep you from being alone.

I am suggesting also playing video games or watching series, movies, animes, or any thing. This all depends on your preference.

Just don't let your loneliness beat you.

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