Hello,
I am new to the forums and would like to get some advice. I lost my job 5 months ago after holding that job for 15 years and I have been applying like crazy. I have had several interviews but no job offers. The problem is my dad badmouths me behind my back. He will talk badly about me to my mother and then she in turn runs back to tell me what he says. He will say things like "People just don't want to work these days" or that "She could have found a job by now." He will then tell my mother not to tell me what he is saying. But why say it at all if that is the case?
He takes cheap shots at me but never directly to my face. He has even started to indirectly take his jabs about me in front of others and of course mom runs back to tell me even though she knows it hurts me. I am getting to the point that I don't even want to visit because I already know how he feels about me. He has made his comments about me not working not once, twice, but over a dozen times. I know that I am unemployed and talking about me behind my back will not magically make a job fall in my lap. It is hard enough looking for work without people trying to crush my spirit. To me it seems like he is scared of what others will think of him having an unemployed daughter.
Anyway how should I go about this? Should I confront him in an adult manner or should I just let it go and limit my visits? I am also thinking I should tell my mother to stop being his mouthpiece. I am doing the best that I can.